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Abortion of older children, teens too

     

Children left at Nebraska hospitals: more details
Several teenagers and pre-teens left by families at Nebraska hospitals over the past several weeks are mentally ill or have severe behavioral problems, according to the Omaha World-Herald.
The newspaper reports today that families sought help for these violent or out-of-control kids, unsuccessfully.
—  A 15-year-old boy who would punch holes in the wall at home and throw things in school.  His father is described in court records as “psychotic and a drug user who had been convicted of misdemeanor child abuse,” the World-Herald reports.
The boy was living with an aunt;  when she tried calling a statewide human services hotline  “she got no useful information,” the newspaper said.  Separately, officials with Nebraska’s child welfare division told the aunt the state couldn’t intervene unless the boy committed a crime.
—   A 13-year-old girl who’d been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, fetal alcohol syndrome, and severe behavioral problems.   She was prone to fly into rages and and had been living at Boys Town until her great aunt removed her at the beginning of the summer, concerned that the girl was being medicated too heavily.
After the girl smeared her menstrual blood on the walls of her house, the “aunt called agencies for help but said she could not find a program,” the World-Herald reports.   When the girl tried to jump out of a moving car, her great aunt took her to a hospital and asked for help.
“I can’t do nothing for her anymore.  It’s too dangerous,” she told the Omaha newspaper.
—   A 15-year-old boy who’d been diagnosed with depression and using drugs.   Over the summer, the boy had been found carrying marijuana and had run away from home before entering a diversion program.   When police brought him back, he reportedly began to express suicidical intentions.
His uncle, the boy’s guardian, took him to an Omaha hospital for a psychiatric evaluation, but the hospital refused to admit the teeanger when he said he wasn’t suicidal.
“Fearing for his life, that’s when I made the decision that I made,” said the uncle, who then turned the teenager in under Nebraska’s new “safe haven” law, according to the World-Herald.
—  An 11-year-old boy  who’d threatened to kill his mother and siblings.   The World-Herald reports that the mom arranged for the boy to be admitted to a psychiatric hospital but that he refused to take his medications.  
“She has exhausted all of her options,” according to a police report cited by the World-Herald.
Under Nebraska’s new “safe haven” law — the last in the nation — seven teens have been dropped off at hospitals over the past several weeks by parents or guardians.   The Nebraska law is the only in the U.S. that doesn’t set an age limit on children who can be handed over to authorities, no questions asked.   
In Nebraska, the debate now centers around the adequacy of services for families with troubled kids.   A lack of resources prevents families from receiving needed help, advocates claim in another story published by the Omaha World-Herald today.
“There’s not enough places to turn,” said Eve Bleyhl, executive director of the Nebraska Family Support Network, quoted in the paper. 
Nebraska human services officials dispute that allegation.  According to the World-Herald, the director of the state’s department of health and human services said a review of cases “had not turned up problems with the state’s system for responding to families in crisis.”
The case that’s received the most attention involves a father who deposited 9 of his 10 children, ages 1 to 17, at an Omaha hospital.  It’s not clear from news reports if any of the children were seriously disturbed.  
This is an issue that is resonating with people across the country.  Many of you responded to my Friday post, and it appears many of you think the dad who relinquished responsibility for his nine kids did the right thing, especially if the alternative was abuse and neglect.
Unfortunately, we still don’t know a lot about what happened in this particular case.
Did the father call family members and ask for their support?   Did he call service agencies and admit that he needed help?   Did the children have any advance warning?    Or were they caught by surprise, faced with losing their home and their sole remaining parent after their mother died suddenly a year and a half before?
Nebraska lawmakers will now consider whether the state’s new law needs to be changed to narrow its scope to babies and infants, the World-Herald reports.http://newsblogs.chicagotribune.com/triage/2008/09/children-left-a.html

One suspects that these “unintended results” are adding to the strain on diminishing state resources but it also reveals a hidden problem: children — from babies to teens — are living in situations where their parents can’t or are incapable of caring for them properly.   What kind of society so eagerly wants to put these children back behind the curtain and ignore the issue? Yes, some of the parents may be selfish or lazy or addicts. Or they might be mentally or physically ill, or plagued by mortgage foreclosures, staggering health bills, or job lay-offs.    The primary focus should be on helping the children whose parents don’t want them or can’t care for them, not on “fixing” the system to prevent parents from dumping their kids.   

 

The safe haven law performed beyond expectations. It reveals a need for our society to provide more resources for children whose parents would abandon them for whatever reason.  

 

Shame on the legislators, public health officials and the wider media for wanting to sweep under the rug this truth that emerged from Nebraska’s new law.

 

 

 

 

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I actually have often encountered  females who thought that once they got married they next would not have to do anything, to do any work anymore, for the husband would fully look after them, the children, and supply them all of  their needs.  Now there were, are some slave  drivers, the bad men who thought the women  would do all the work around the home too. Marriage is a joint efffort!  And so what happened to  (Gen 3:19 KJV)  In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return.   
         

It is a generally established fact, requirement that both of the parents equally have the full responsibility as much as they are able to do so as well, to properly, reasonably  bring up their own chidden, not the state itself now, that includes them working to provide food, clothing, shelter,  safety as well as  providing proper education for them, preparing them to handle an adequate job, marriage now included. There is no question that some even professing Christian parents, too often one parent now , falsely  have renegade on their responsibilities, they were lazy parents, some with unrealistic expectations from their spouses now too, and this has occurred world wide. I have often encountered now even teens under 18 who were abandoned by their professing Christian parents, who wanted to use the money rather on themselves absented, and their children thus were unable to get by now on their own , basically forced to live on the street as beggars..

  So US State Safe haven laws were supposedly designed to allow potential abuse children be protected from any further abuse. For what ever reasons there are direct parents, both in non divorced and in divorced families that refuse to support their children any further.

” For years, child-welfare experts have disagreed about whether safe-haven laws reduce the total number of abandoned children.  Neb. lawmakers consider revising ‘safe-haven’ law By TIMBERLY ROSS – 2 hours ago  OMAHA, Neb. (AP) — When Nebraska lawmakers passed a unique “safe-haven” law that allowed parents to abandon children as old as 18, they never seriously thought such dropoffs would become common. But their worst fears have come true: At least 16 children, some of them teenagers, have been abandoned since the law took effect in July. Now elected officials are considering revising the law, and at least one anguished parent said he only surrendered his kids because he felt he had no choice. “If we see another family being left off, then we’re going to have to do something immediately,” said state Sen. Arnie Stuthman, who introduced legislation that was the basis for the law.  Stuthman said lawmakers need to set a maximum age for children who can be handed over to the state, and he’s not sure whether it can wait until the Legislature reconvenes in January. But it’s not clear whether Gov. Dave Heineman will call a special session to modify the law, even though he has said it should be changed. For now, the law permits caregivers to abandon children at state-certified hospitals without fear of prosecution. It was intended to protect infants, but was amended to include the word “child,” which isn’t defined. So some have concluded the law covers all minors, which in Nebraska includes anyone under the age of 19. The latest example happened Wednesday, when an out-of-work widower left nine of his 10 children at an Omaha hospital, saying he was overwhelmed by family responsibilities. Gary Staton went to Creighton University Medical Center to surrender his five sons and four of his daughters, who ranged in age from 1 to 17. He did not bring his oldest daughter, 18. Staton’s wife died in early 2007, shortly after giving birth to their 10th child. The man told police he hasn’t worked since July and was struggling to make ends meet. “I was with her for 17 years, and then she was gone. What was I going to do?” Staton said to Omaha television station KETV. “We raised them together. I didn’t think I could do it alone. I fell apart. I couldn’t take care of them.” Calls by The Associated Press to a number listed for Staton went unanswered Friday. A number of relatives have volunteered to take the Staton siblings, said Kathie Osterman, a spokeswoman for the state department of Health and Human Services. She said the children may be temporarily placed with those family members until a judge decides on permanent custody. Osterman said Staton never asked relatives for help. Todd Landry, director of the division of Children and Family Services, said the safe-haven law was designed to help children who are in danger, but none of the kids who were dropped off had been in harm’s way. In addition to Staton’s kids, two unrelated boys were left Wednesday at a different Omaha hospital. Landry said he empathizes with parents who struggle to raise their families, but “it is the job of a parent to be a parent.” He said there are resources to help them. James Blue, president and CEO of the Lincoln-based nonprofit Cedars, which works with abused and neglected children, said he’s been inundated with calls ever since the safe-haven law took effect. He said the group gets more than 10 calls a day from struggling parents, and its temporary shelter is at its capacity of 15. “While this (law) has, I think, exposed an underbelly of our society of families that are dropping teenagers off forever at a hospital, it has also given a message to families that there is help out there,” Blue said. He said it’s important for the state to have a safe-haven law, but there needs to be an age limit for the children who are left behind.  Nebraska lawmakers tried for years to pass the law, and they succeeded this year only after intense debate. Senators worried that an age limit was too arbitrary and that it might endanger youngsters who were just a week too old.
“It does open a door to older children being left off,”

http://ap.google.com/article/ALeqM5hlZbpXbUt5CbF3Ra6tEc-6uzzToAD93EMFNG1

In case you did not know it there are lazy, no good bad wives, uprepared for marriage still too not just the lazy no good bad hsubands. There are still  also the good and bad parents too.
  
(Prov 18:22 KJV)  Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
 
(Prov 31:10 KJV)  Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11  The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12  She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13  She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14  She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15  She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16  She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17  She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18  She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19  She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20  She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21  She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22  She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23  Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24  She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25  Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26  She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27  She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28  Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29  Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30  Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
31  Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
  
(Eph 6:4 KJV)  And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
 
 (1 Tim 5:8 KJV)  But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
9  Let not a widow be taken into the number under threescore years old, having been the wife of one man,
10  Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints’ feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work.
11  But the younger widows refuse: for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ, they will marry;
12  Having damnation, because they have cast off their first faith.
13  And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not.
14  I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
15  For some are already turned aside after Satan.
16  If any man or woman that believeth have widows, let them relieve them, and let not the church be charged; that it may relieve them that are widows indeed.
             

 

 Parents Give Up Youths Under Law Meant for Babies
New York Times – 1 By ERIK ECKHOLM OMAHA – The abandonments began on Sept. 1, when a mother left her 14-year-old son in a police station here. By Sept.
Kin of 9 abandoned kids say they would’ve helped The Associated Press
Kin of 9 abandoned kids say they would’ve helped WLOS
MSNBC – NBC13.com – WOWT – Trading Markets (press release)
all 198 news articles »

 

 Abusive dad jailed nine years
Edmonton Sun –  By SUN MEDIA CALGARY — A father who gave his daughter marijuana, sexually abused her and made child pornography videos of what he did has been sent to prison for nine years.
Dad jailed for sex assaults on drugged daughter Calgary Herald
Calgary man gets 9 years for abusing daughter Calgary CTV
Canoe.ca – 660 News – Canada.com
all 10 news articles »

 

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The nomination of Republican vice President Sarah Palin has certainly sparked interest

 
     
 
Some persons wrongly try to advocate that Pentecostalism is a modern day religion that now is found solely in the United States originally whereas others do rightfully maintain rather it  is a revived New Testament form of Biblical Christianity. It is now a major world wide Charismatic branch of Christianity
 
There are various brands of Pentecostalism today but they all mostly tend to believe in similar aspects of their version of Christianity but not all. There is clearly one  false sect in this grouping now too.
  
The nomination of Republican vice President Sarah Plain has certainly sparked  interest world wide into the Pentecostal religion, and now many persons world wide as well as in the Americas do seek, do want to know seriously what is difference basically  about this Christian religion from the other existing differing Christian religions. 
 
The Christians now already  all supposedly believe in Jesus Christ as firstly being God, Jesus also being the promised Old testament Messiah as well, they the Christians they do all tend to believe in the existence also of the Holy Trinity too ,  where the personal Sprit of Christ, the Holy Spirit is also manifested as a separate personal entity who  carries  on the work of Jesus Christ ongoing in the genuine  Christian Believer’s personal life. It is estimated that only 30 percent of all Christian believers are genuine, actually practicing Christians  in the various Christian churches
 
And  all Christians tend to generally believe in the same Bible, the Old and New Testament  as being now the true revealed word of God to us all even about Jesus, the apostles, and the Christian church as well.
 
The Pentecostals tend to separately now believe that God speaks continually to each Christian  believer now as well personally, even outside of the Word of God, the Bible, by means of the Holy Spirit, and the Pentecostals tend to believe in the separate personal need of receiving the anointing, the Baptism of the  Holy spirit personally in one’s life , this now is clearly a separate experience from the experience of receiving one’s initial personal salvation, eternal life by faith in the innocent, sacrificial, shed blood of Jesus Christ.
 
The majority of the Pentecostals tend to believe in manifesting one of the the Charismatic gifts of the Holy spirit, often tongues , as evidence of now being personally baptized with the Holy spirit. .
 
They the Pentecostals do tend to  believe in the manifestations of the charismatic’s gifts of the Holy Spirit as being applicable today as well, whereas other Pentecostal limit it to solely speaking in tongues, and Pentecostals often do personally practice praying for personal, physical healing, even by the laying of hands on others, as well as the ministry of casting out demons out of individuals too.
  
Needless to say there are different versions by non Pentecostals about what a Pentecostal now are even, some lying and distorted too, depending on who you talk to as well.
 
The Pentecostals also do tend to believe in the local church being run by elders, apostles, prophets, bishops and not rather by a single one man ministry of a local Pastor.
 
Tithing is mandatory in some Pentecostal churches and in other it is not.
 
The Pentecostal  Church services tend to be vastly different, but not always, some churches are more active in participatory services of worshiping God in songs, tongues, and in prophecies and they also tend to have longer prayer services , and also longer, more diverse, less predictable  church services than many other supposedly Christian denominations.
 
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Religious Topics of Interest

Topics of Interest
 
Topics of interest are listed  for your edification. Everyday issues of eternal significance are addressed from a biblical standpoint.  http://www.comprehensivechristian.com/Topics-of-Interest.asp

  • Spiritual Warfare
  • Keeping Christ in Christmas
  • The Secret Place of the Most High: What is it?
  • Be true to yourself and God
  • One of the Most Misunderstood Texts: Romans Chapter 7
  • The Preaching that is Commissioned by God
  • Joyful Desperation!
  • Divine Healing by Andrew Murray
  • Christian Worldview in a Crime Ridden World
  • Euthanasia Mercy Killings or Merciless Murders
  • What is the difference between True Revival and False Revival
  • Why the Church needs Revival
  • Why there is no Revival in Most Churches
  • Are you a Christian?
  • What is the Truth?
  • On Choosing Your Life-Partner
  • New Year, 2005!
  • Tsunami, “Saved alone.”
  • How to be an Overcomer
  • What is Autism? Is there a cure?
  • So Many Defenseless Victims of Neglect and Violence…
  • The Passion Of The Christ
  • False Pentecostalism And Man-made doctrines
  • Finally Free
  • 2004 New Year’s Resolution
  • Discovering The Star In You This Christmas Season
  • Some thoughts on taming the tongue
  • Victory in JESUS!
  • Decision Making
  • Addiction of today’s housewife
  • Death of a guru
  • Take Time To Be Holy
  • Exhortation
  • The God Of All Comfort
  • A Loving Rebuke
  • Reversing The Epidemic Of Spiritual Immaturity In The Church
  • Christian Prosperity
  • He Showed Himself Alive!
  • The Christian Soldier at Wartime!
  • Finding Our Way Back To God
  • Liars and the Lake of Fire
  • A thankful heart
  • The Roman Catholic Church
  • Without Love
  • Sobriety : the Lost Art
  • New Year’s Resolution for 2003
  • Christmas 2002
  • A, “Sacred Starvation?”
  • Christmas
  • Easter Season
  • A Word About “Revelation”
  • Follow your own heart …???
  • The Martial Arts and the Christian
  • Speak Lord, for your servant heareth!
  • Are the Gifts of the Holy Spirit for Today?
  • Thinking of You…
  • How to find a good church
  • The nominal christian
  • Overcoming Fear
  • The Christian Cop
  • His face and Form was more damaged than any other man’s
  • Suicide
  • Abortion
  • Lord, what do you want from me anyway?
  • “How could God let something like this happen?”
  • Godly Parenting
  • Warning!! from the World Trade Center Disaster
  • How to live the separated life of a believer?
  • What to do if you are gay/lesbian?
  • What the Bible Teaches
  • How you can have a truly fulfilling marriage?
  • How to get to Heaven?
  • How you can have a True Friend?
  • What the Bible says about dating/pre-marital relationships?
  • How to be Forgiven of Pre-marital Immorality?

“Sad to say, the Lord is very grieved when He views much of our programs, service, worship, devotions etc.  Why? It is because, “this people honors Me with their lips but their hearts are far from Me.” (Isaiah 29:13).
 
We must all by God’s help first die to self, and all it stands for now as well.  
 
“There is really only one reason why we see no revival in most congregations in the world: Disobedience in the professing Christians in the Churches.  One of ways that disobedience is played out is in Self-Deception and Unbelief!
 
There is disobedience and self-deception on the part of pastors and leaders as well on the part of the laity. ”
 
 The pastoral self satisfaction and pastoral disobedience to God stops all revivals from happening.. I proved it myself. Any church can have next a revival, if the people in  that church start to meet regularity and to pray for each specific service that God would be manifested in it.. I asked to met with the pastor of my local church to pray one hour a week for his services, within a month a revival broke out in his Church to his surprise and not mine.
 
Men ought to pray and not faint, pray that the Lord of the harvesters will send his laborers into his field.
 
Increased personal Bible reading, prayer and obedience are clear signals that we personally are pressing toward maturity in Jesus Christ. For we cannot hope to lead any of the others to where we ourselves have refused to go..
 
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Sarah Palin

The Alaska governor was raised in a Pentecostal church and has called herself “as pro-life as any candidate can be.”
 
“Palin proves in deeds his love: being a proud mother of five children, and a son with Down syndrome, is a good sign. She is not a person with a long political experience, but I think that I could trust in this woman.”Santiago, Granada (Spain) http://opinionciudadano.blogspot.com/ 

What’s Not To Love? She’s smart, she’s conservative, she’s bold, she’s hot, and she’s a  good shot.  What’s not to love?  http://spagreport.wordpress.com/2008/08/31/whats-not-to-love/  

 

 

Sarah Palin’s Religious background is the  Assemblies of God Pentecostals  

They sure have colorful members. Famous Members of the Assemblies of God- Jim Bakker –  Jimmy Swaggart  – Tammy Faye Bakker  – Benny Hinn –  Jack Coe –  – David du Plessis –   David Yonggi Cho –   Brian Houston –  Richard Dortch –  Gene Scott –  – Danny Nalliah –  A. A. Allen –  Steve Hill  – Karl Strader  – Morris Cerullo  – Byron Klaus  – Nicky Cruz –  – Dean Jackson –  – Edith W. Blumhofer  – John Ashcroft –   James Watt –  Rick Hill –  Todd Tiahrt – Linda Smith –    Marylin Shannon  – Andrew Evans –   – Elvis Presley –  – Jerry Lee Lewis –   Doug Wead – 

 

 

 

 

Verbal abuse is always unacceptable too. So are the Bullies now too.

Verbal abuse is always unacceptable too. So are the Bullies now    Even for Christians! verbal abuse by pastorS NOW ESPECIALLY TOO.

“This is from the book by Patricia Evans http://andthenshecried.wordpress.com/2008/02/05/the-verbally-abusive-relationship-how-to-recognize-it-and-how-to-respond

Verbal abuse is a kind of battering which doesn’t leave evidence like physical abuse does. However, it can be just as painful, and recovery can take much longer. The victim of abuse lives in a gradually more confusing realm. In public she is with one man, in private he becomes another. Often, for the verbally abused woman (man), there is no witness to her reality and no one to understand her experiences. Friends and family continue to see her ex, the abuser, as a really good guy and, certainly, he agrees with them. The verbal abuser, while maintaining his charm with others, always takes his abuse behind closed doors. It is a means of holding power over his wife( husband) /partner.. Many women and some men leave a marriage and come back into the singles’ world with the diminished self-esteem that comes from a verbally abusive relationship. The fact that many of these women (men) have never even realized that they were being abused, makes it easy for them to enter another abusive relationship. A verbal abuser is an insecure person and immature person who is looking for power and control over another.In order to help you recognize abuse, remember that all forms of verbal abuse are methods of manipulating you for the purpose of establishing power over you. The following are some of the forms of verbal abuse the author helps you recognize.

  1. Withholding: a purposeful, silent treatment.
  2. Countering: a countering of your ideas, feelings, and perceptions, even going so far as to refute what he misconstrues you to have said.
  3. Discounting–a putdown of you or something you hold dear.
  4. Blocking and diverting–this is a sneaky, covert way of violating your dignity.
  5. Accusation and blame: generally involves lies about the partner’s intentions, attitudes, and motives. The author states that accusation and blame is present in all verbally abusive relationships.
  6. Judging and criticizing: lies about your personal qualities and performance.
  7. Trivializing and undermining: abusive behavior which makes light of your work, your efforts, your interests, or your concerns. The abuser attempts to dilute meaning and value in your life. Undermining might occur when your partner laughs at you, for example, when you burn yourself cooking. It is also jokes at your expense. Undermining is occurring when you feel a “so-called joke” is mean rather than funny.
  8. Name calling: no one has a right to call you degrading names. Name calling is verbal abuse.
  9. Ordering: Telling you to do something, rather than asking, or making decisions for you or for the two of you without your input.
  10. Forgetting and denial: the trickiest form of denial is forgetting. Become aware that forgetting is a form of denial that shifts all responsibility from the abuser to some “weakness of mind.”
  11. Abusive anger: this seems to be closely linked to the need to “blow up,” to dominate, to control, to go one up, and to put down. Any time you are snapped at or yelled at, you are being abused.
  12. Threatening: Physical threats and sexual threats aside, verbal threats are an effort at manipulation. For example, a threat to leave, stay out all night, or take you home immediately is a manipulation for power. The threat of “pending disaster” is designed to shatter the partner’s serenity as well as her boundaries.
  13. If you counter the abuser or attempt to explain yourself, you will probably be met with such statements as, “I don’t want to hear it, get out of my face” or “Woman you don’t have the brains“, “BYou shouldn’t have said that to me“.

    f you are in a brand-new relationship and see warning signs of verbal abuse, the author suggests you might be wise to let the relationship go. It is not likely that a man (woman) who needs to dominate and control will change easily, if at all. It is also likely that when the newness of the relationship wears off, he will become more abusive. Verbal abuse can become physical in time and physical abuse is always preceded by verbal abuse, according to Evans.If you are in a long-term relationship, you can respond to the abuser as the book suggests and soon discover for yourself whether or not your mate is willing to change and stop his abusive behavior.

    “If you have been verbally abused in your relationship, you may have discovered that explaining and trying to understand have not improved your relationship. Therefore, I recommend that you respond in a new way–a way that will make an emotional, psychological, and intellectual impact upon your mate.”

    The abuser in your relationship may change when he finds that you do know when you are being abused, that you have set limits, that you mean what you say, and that you will not take behavior you don’t like. 

    If the man ( or sadly too often now a women) in your relationship remains abusive, it is not only not your fault,” but it is  your responsibility to deal with it, make it public, call the police too.

    Any person cannot still fight with you of you leave his or her presences, even forever.. and there is still a good life after a failed marriage now too. I practise what I preach and often now too.

     SEE ALSO https://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/the-too-common-abusive-silent-treatment/

    Hey if you read my many non conforming posts you will note that I definitely, and loudly, rightfully still  do not conform to the false or immoral demands of others..
     
    I was really now fortunate I had great teachers here in Canada, in my public school, in high School and in University in Montreal Quebec, and all of them now   had treated me as a real person, respected me, and allowed me to speak. and to be heard as well.
      
    Not one of them no one told me what I can talk about write about or what I cannot as well. At work as a Professional Engineer, or as a Professional Realtor with Re/Max I was allowed continually as a responsible, a mature adult to make my own decisions,  and top also carry out my responsibilities in the manner   I chose to do them as well.
     
    So I have to admit it came to me as a shock firstly when I started to attend evangelical, Baptist Pentecostal churches in Canada now as an adult that that same right  to be respect, top speak, and to be heard, not to be bullied, falsely oppressed. Legal and Human rights that  I had before, often now did not exist in the churches surprisingly now of all places. Never saw so many control freaks, human rights abusers  in my whole life next to the too often bad cops now too.  And perversely many a despotic, crooked elder, pastor had wrongfully tried to shut me up, and even next had resorted next to slander me, to try to discredit me and what I had said,  or whatever,  now even both in Quebec and in Alberta.
     
    But like I have often said elsewhere the Evangelical church was not the only place where they tried to deny me my right to speak and to be heard now, for too often too and unacceptable the Alberta bullies, rednecks now  on the net had wrongfully tried often and falsely to suppress my right of free speech, but next so did not too many a Politician, particularly,  ironically again both the professing Christian ones, and the definitely alcoholic ones now too.. what they were falsely deluded that only politicians had the right of free speech and the right to be heard it seems too .
     
    Next too many bad police officers as well did not like me openly, publically complaining about the too often bad cops, bad RCMP had encountered in Alberta, Quebec, and not just the too many bad pastors, elders too, and in other provinces as well.. and what these bad  cops, bad watchdogs,  forget they are here to serve the good welfare of the citizens? for  they are not our despotic slave drivers.. nor are their bosses for that matter now too.
     
    Now what bothered them all now so much that they had tried to shut me up? my transparency, honesty, or it seems the mere exercise of  case of my rights . For in reality it seems at least 10 percent of the persons even on the net seem to be control freaks, bullies, human rights abusers.
     
    I often read complaints on the net from  some child complaining  that that one of their parents is verbally abusing them, or even a spouse complain that  their spouse is abusing them.  I have heard people tell me how pastors had abused them as well. Children and spouses sometimes are forced to put up with it?? But not me, for I am not a child, rather a matured adult, a retired senior in fact. And I can clearly, rightfully speak for myself and talk on any topic now as I so desire as well as we all can readily see and I do so now too. And for the good of us all now too.
     
     
    Beware always of men and women, bullies, tormentors, control freaks,  persons, civil and public servants,  politicians, pastors, leaders, elders, who falsely do, will try to enslave you, oppress you, exploit you even while they claim they are proclaiming the truth, democracy, trying to help you, etc.,
     
    Is 51:23 ..your tormentors {and} oppressors, those who said to you, Bow down, that we may ride {or} tread over you; and you have made your back like the ground and like the street for them to pass over.
     
     
     
    In generally in the more   liberal society of Canada both the wife and the children tend to have much more freedom, rights, make their own decisions,  over many other countries and as a result the culture shock is a very real problem for some new immigrant spouses where the husband was used to being obeyed, and being the sole head of the home  thus  it’s not altogether uncommon for some of the new immigrant  home situations to become  unacceptably violent.
     
    Here also is what I know for sure, the older the person is the more extreme, more severe, the more difficult the punishment has  to be on them to cause them to personally to change in their own  negative ways, for they are too set in them now too.