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Religious Topics of Interest

Topics of Interest
 
Topics of interest are listed  for your edification. Everyday issues of eternal significance are addressed from a biblical standpoint.  http://www.comprehensivechristian.com/Topics-of-Interest.asp

  • Spiritual Warfare
  • Keeping Christ in Christmas
  • The Secret Place of the Most High: What is it?
  • Be true to yourself and God
  • One of the Most Misunderstood Texts: Romans Chapter 7
  • The Preaching that is Commissioned by God
  • Joyful Desperation!
  • Divine Healing by Andrew Murray
  • Christian Worldview in a Crime Ridden World
  • Euthanasia Mercy Killings or Merciless Murders
  • What is the difference between True Revival and False Revival
  • Why the Church needs Revival
  • Why there is no Revival in Most Churches
  • Are you a Christian?
  • What is the Truth?
  • On Choosing Your Life-Partner
  • New Year, 2005!
  • Tsunami, “Saved alone.”
  • How to be an Overcomer
  • What is Autism? Is there a cure?
  • So Many Defenseless Victims of Neglect and Violence…
  • The Passion Of The Christ
  • False Pentecostalism And Man-made doctrines
  • Finally Free
  • 2004 New Year’s Resolution
  • Discovering The Star In You This Christmas Season
  • Some thoughts on taming the tongue
  • Victory in JESUS!
  • Decision Making
  • Addiction of today’s housewife
  • Death of a guru
  • Take Time To Be Holy
  • Exhortation
  • The God Of All Comfort
  • A Loving Rebuke
  • Reversing The Epidemic Of Spiritual Immaturity In The Church
  • Christian Prosperity
  • He Showed Himself Alive!
  • The Christian Soldier at Wartime!
  • Finding Our Way Back To God
  • Liars and the Lake of Fire
  • A thankful heart
  • The Roman Catholic Church
  • Without Love
  • Sobriety : the Lost Art
  • New Year’s Resolution for 2003
  • Christmas 2002
  • A, “Sacred Starvation?”
  • Christmas
  • Easter Season
  • A Word About “Revelation”
  • Follow your own heart …???
  • The Martial Arts and the Christian
  • Speak Lord, for your servant heareth!
  • Are the Gifts of the Holy Spirit for Today?
  • Thinking of You…
  • How to find a good church
  • The nominal christian
  • Overcoming Fear
  • The Christian Cop
  • His face and Form was more damaged than any other man’s
  • Suicide
  • Abortion
  • Lord, what do you want from me anyway?
  • “How could God let something like this happen?”
  • Godly Parenting
  • Warning!! from the World Trade Center Disaster
  • How to live the separated life of a believer?
  • What to do if you are gay/lesbian?
  • What the Bible Teaches
  • How you can have a truly fulfilling marriage?
  • How to get to Heaven?
  • How you can have a True Friend?
  • What the Bible says about dating/pre-marital relationships?
  • How to be Forgiven of Pre-marital Immorality?

“Sad to say, the Lord is very grieved when He views much of our programs, service, worship, devotions etc.  Why? It is because, “this people honors Me with their lips but their hearts are far from Me.” (Isaiah 29:13).
 
We must all by God’s help first die to self, and all it stands for now as well.  
 
“There is really only one reason why we see no revival in most congregations in the world: Disobedience in the professing Christians in the Churches.  One of ways that disobedience is played out is in Self-Deception and Unbelief!
 
There is disobedience and self-deception on the part of pastors and leaders as well on the part of the laity. ”
 
 The pastoral self satisfaction and pastoral disobedience to God stops all revivals from happening.. I proved it myself. Any church can have next a revival, if the people in  that church start to meet regularity and to pray for each specific service that God would be manifested in it.. I asked to met with the pastor of my local church to pray one hour a week for his services, within a month a revival broke out in his Church to his surprise and not mine.
 
Men ought to pray and not faint, pray that the Lord of the harvesters will send his laborers into his field.
 
Increased personal Bible reading, prayer and obedience are clear signals that we personally are pressing toward maturity in Jesus Christ. For we cannot hope to lead any of the others to where we ourselves have refused to go..
 
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Unfaithful

Luke 16:10 He who is faithful in a very little [thing] is faithful also in much, and he who is dishonest {and} unjust in a very little [thing] is dishonest {and} unjust also in much.
 
 
It  has also been my own witness, experience that most people are sooner or later actually exposed for what they really are, were and they do not get away with it, their too often false pretentions, deceptions.
 
Clearly (Gal 6:7)  Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man sows, that shall he also reap.
 
and you can be sure that the Devil the accuser of the brethren will also make sure it happens next too.. Jesus himself had said
 
(Luke 12:3 KJV)  Therefore whatsoever ye have spoken in darkness shall be heard in the light; and that which ye have spoken in the ear in closets shall be proclaimed upon the housetops.
 
(Luke 12:4 KJV)  And I say unto you my friends, Be not afraid of them that kill the body, and after that have no more that they can do. 5 But I will forewarn you whom ye shall fear: Fear him, which after he hath killed hath power to cast into hell; yea, I say unto you, Fear him.
 
Luke 16:11 Therefore if you have not been faithful in the [case of] unrighteous mammon (deceitful riches, money, possessions), who will entrust to you the true riches? 12 And if you have not proved faithful in that which belongs to another [whether God or man], who will give you that which is your own [that is, the true riches]? 13  No servant is able to serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will stand by {and} be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon (riches, or anything in which you trust and on which you rely). 14  Now the Pharisees, who were covetous {and} lovers of money, heard all these things [taken together], and they began to sneer at {and} ridicule {and} scoff at Him. 15 But He said to them, You are the ones who declare yourselves just {and} upright before men, but God knows your hearts. For what is exalted {and} highly thought of among men is detestable {and} abhorrent (an abomination) in the sight of God. [I Sam. 16:7; Prov. 21:2.]
 
Luke 16:18 Whoever divorces (dismisses and repudiates) his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.
 
and having now acquired, having had riches and wealth does not mean you go to heaven next still too.
 
Luke 16:19 There was a certain rich man who [habitually] clothed himself in purple and fine linen and reveled {and} feasted {and} made merry in splendor every day. 20 And at his gate there was [carelessly] dropped down {and} left a certain utterly destitute man named Lazarus, [reduced to begging alms and] covered with [ulcerated] sores.21 He [eagerly] desired to be satisfied with what fell from the rich man’s table; moreover, the dogs even came and licked his sores.22 And it occurred that the man [reduced to] begging died and was carried by the angels to Abraham’s bosom. The rich man also died and was buried. 23  And in Hades (the realm of the dead), being in torment, he lifted up his eyes and saw Abraham far away, and Lazarus in his bosom. 24 And he cried out and said, Father Abraham, have pity {and} mercy on me and send Lazarus to dip the tip of his finger in water and cool my tongue, for I am in anguish in this flame. 25  But Abraham said, Child, remember that you in your lifetime fully received [what is due you in] comforts {and} delights, and Lazarus in like manner the discomforts {and} distresses; but now he is comforted here and you are in anguish.26  And besides all this, between us and you a great chasm has been fixed, in order that those who want to pass from this [place] to you may not be able, and no one may pass from there to us. 27  And [the man] said, Then, father, I beseech you to send him to my father’s house– 28 For I have five brothers–so that he may give [solemn] testimony {and} warn them, lest they too come into this place of torment.29  But Abraham said, They have Moses and the Prophets; let them hear {and} listen to them. 30 But he answered, No, father Abraham, but if someone from the dead goes to them, they will repent (change their minds for the better and heartily amend their ways, with abhorrence of their past sins).31 He said to him, If they do not hear {and} listen to Moses and the Prophets, neither will they be persuaded {and} convinced {and} believe [even] if someone should rise from the dead.
 
 

Perfect versus Perfectionists

Now I have clearly mentioned that Control freaks tend to be rightfully  guilt ridden sinners, and so they next  try to cover up it with both false denials and a false perfection approach  too… for too many people too often do people try to compensate for an imbalance in one area by an extreme in another area of their own personal life… such as seeking for the perfect mate, perfect job, perfect marriage and they will never, never find it, for this world is really imperfect and you should know that by now too.. AND IN LOVE YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO LIVE WITH IT, TO MAKE THE BEST OF IT STILL ALWAYS TOO.
 
(1 Ki 8:46 KJV)  If they sin against thee, (for there is no man that sinneth not,) and thou be angry with them, and deliver them to the enemy, so that they carry them away captives unto the land of the enemy, far or near;
 
(Eccl 7:20 KJV)  For there is not a just man upon earth, that doeth good, and sinneth not.
 
(John 15:5 KJV)  I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.
 
(John 15:6 KJV)  If a man abide not in me, he is cast forth as a branch, and is withered; and men gather them, and cast them into the fire, and they are burned.
 
(John 15:7 KJV)  If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you.
 
(John 15:8 KJV)  Herein is my Father glorified, that ye bear much fruit; so shall ye be my disciples.
 
(John 15:9 KJV)  As the Father hath loved me, so have I loved you: continue ye in my love.
 
(John 15:10 KJV)  If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love; even as I have kept my Father’s commandments, and abide in his love.
 
(John 15:11 KJV)  These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full.
 
(John 15:12 KJV)  This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.
 
(John 15:13 KJV)  Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
 
(John 15:14 KJV)  Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you.
 
(John 15:15 KJV)  Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.
 
(John 15:16 KJV)  Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you, and ordained you, that ye should go and bring forth fruit, and that your fruit should remain: that whatsoever ye shall ask of the Father in my name, he may give it you.
 
(John 15:17 KJV)  These things I command you, that ye love one another.
 
(1 John 3:6 KJV)  Whosoever abideth in him sinneth not: whosoever sinneth hath not seen him, neither known him.
 
(1 John 5:18 KJV)  We know that whosoever is born of God sinneth not; but he that is begotten of God keepeth himself, and that wicked one toucheth him not.
 
 
NOW IF YOU THINK YOUR SPOUSE IS NON PERFECT, OR THEY ARE A NON CHRISTIAN, ..always do firstly still pray for them daily, pray blessings for them and not rather curses too, ..  AND NOT FALSELY FILE  FOR DIVORCE.. it is as a simple as that too. Only in heaven when we are married to Jesus will we have the perfect marriage, the perfect father, the perfect brother.
 
(Prov 3:7 KJV)  Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.
 
(Prov 3:8 KJV)  It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones.
 
(Prov 3:9 KJV)  Honour the LORD with thy substance, and with the firstfruits of all thine increase:
 
(Prov 3:10 KJV)  So shall thy barns be filled with plenty, and thy presses shall burst out with new wine.
 
(Deu 18:13 KJV)  Thou shalt be perfect with the LORD thy God.
 
(2 Sam 22:31 KJV)  As for God, his way is perfect; the word of the LORD is tried: he is a buckler to all them that trust in him.
 
(2 Sam 22:33 KJV)  God is my strength and power: And he maketh my way perfect.
 
(1 Ki 8:61 KJV)  Let your heart therefore be perfect with the LORD our God, to walk in his statutes, and to keep his commandments, as at this day.
 
(1 Ki 11:4 KJV)  For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not perfect with the LORD his God, as was the heart of David his father.
 
(2 Ki 20:3 KJV)  I beseech thee, O LORD, remember now how I have walked before thee in truth and with a perfect heart, and have done that which is good in thy sight. And Hezekiah wept sore.
 
(1 Chr 29:9 KJV)  Then the people rejoiced, for that they offered willingly, because with perfect heart they offered willingly to the LORD: and David the king also rejoiced with great joy.
 
(2 Chr 16:9 KJV)  For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him. Herein thou hast done foolishly: therefore from henceforth thou shalt have wars.
 
(2 Chr 19:9 KJV)  And he charged them, saying, Thus shall ye do in the fear of the LORD, faithfully, and with a perfect heart.
 
(2 Chr 25:2 KJV)  And he did that which was right in the sight of the LORD, but not with a perfect heart.
 
(Job 1:1 KJV)  There was a man in the land of Uz, whose name was Job; and that man was perfect and upright, and one that feared God, and eschewed evil.
 
(Job 1:8 KJV)  And the LORD said unto Satan, Hast thou considered my servant Job, that there is none like him in the earth, a perfect and an upright man, one that feareth God, and escheweth evil?
 
(Job 8:20 KJV)  Behold, God will not cast away a perfect man, neither will he help the evil doers:
 
(Psa 18:30 KJV)  As for God, his way is perfect: the word of the LORD is tried: he is a buckler to all those that trust in him.
 
(Psa 18:32 KJV)  It is God that girdeth me with strength, and maketh my way perfect.
 
(Psa 19:7 KJV)  The law of the LORD is perfect, converting the soul: the testimony of the LORD is sure, making wise the simple.
 
(Psa 37:37 KJV)  Mark the perfect man, and behold the upright: for the end of that man is peace.
 
(Prov 2:21 KJV)  For the upright shall dwell in the land, and the perfect shall remain in it.
 
(Prov 4:18 KJV)  But the path of the just is as the shining light, that shineth more and more unto the perfect day.
 
(Prov 11:5 KJV)  The righteousness of the perfect shall direct his way: but the wicked shall fall by his own wickedness.
 
(Isa 26:3 KJV)  Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.
 
(Mat 5:48 KJV)  Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.
 
(Mat 19:21 KJV)  Jesus said unto him, If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me.
 
(John 17:23 KJV)  I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one; and that the world may know that thou hast sent me, and hast loved them, as thou hast loved me.
 
(Rom 12:2 KJV)  And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
 
(1 Cor 13:10 KJV)  But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.
 
(2 Cor 12:9 KJV)  And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
 
(Gal 3:3 KJV)  Are ye so foolish? having begun in the Spirit, are ye now made perfect by the flesh?
 
(Eph 4:13 KJV)  Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ:
 
(2 Tim 3:17 KJV)  That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.
 
(Heb 13:21 KJV)  Make you perfect in every good work to do his will, working in you that which is wellpleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ; to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.
 
(James 1:17 KJV)  Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.
 
(James 1:25 KJV)  But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth therein, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed.
 
(Rev 3:2 KJV)  Be watchful, and strengthen the things which remain, that are ready to die: for I have not found thy works perfect before God.
 

Can a non Christian Marry a Christian?

Clearly the New testament says no, and no more now  than any Christian can have any sex outside of marriage now too,  and Like it or not, but why?

(1 Cor 6:15 KJV)  Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. 16    What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.
 
(2 Cor 6:14 KJV)  Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 15  And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 16  And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. 17  Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, 18  And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty. 7:1  Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.    
  

(1 Cor 5:9 KJV)  I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators: 9  Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10  Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. 
 
It has been my own witness now too that every true Christian that disobeyed God and married an unchristian next ended in divorce anyway.
 
 

 

(1 Cor 10:21 KJV)  Ye cannot drink the cup of the Lord, and the cup of devils: ye cannot be partakers of the Lord’s table, and of the table of devils.
(1 Cor 10:22 KJV)  Do we provoke the Lord to jealousy? are we stronger than he?
 
(1 Cor 10:23 KJV)  All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not.
 
2 Corinthians 6:14:  Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

(1 Tim 5:14 KJV)  I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.15   For some are already turned aside after Satan.

1 Corinthians 7:39 A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.

Repentance is in order..

Matthew 5:28 “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

(1 Cor 10:8 KJV)  Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand.

 Mark 7:21 “For from within, out of men’s hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery,”

Marriage is the second most important decision anyone ever makes. And what was the most important? A career? No. The most important decision is to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.  In fact troubled relationships due to religious differences eventually tend to dissolve the marriage and so today, thousands of Christian men and women stand on the threshold of loneliness and discouragement because their husband or wife is not a Christian.  http://www.ncfliving.org/bk_117_nonchristian1.php
 
“Do not intermarry with them, and don’t let your daughters and sons marry their sons and daughters. They will lead your young people away from me to worship other gods. Then the anger of the LORD will burn against you, and he will destroy you.” (Deuteronomy 7:3-4)
 
“Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can goodness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14)
 
 (Rom 13:9 KJV)  For this, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not kill, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Thou shalt not covet; and if there be any other commandment, it is briefly comprehended in this saying, namely, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.   

  
1 Cor 15:33 Do not be so deceived {and} misled! Evil companionships (communion, associations) corrupt {and} deprave good manners {and} morals {and} character.
 
Gal 6:7 Do not be deceived {and} deluded {and} misled; God will not allow Himself to be sneered at (scorned, disdained, or mocked by mere pretensions or professions, or by His precepts being set aside.)   For whatever a man sows, that  is (also)  what he will reap. ( he can  reap too what others have sowed now too)
 
2 Tim 3:13 But wicked men and imposters will go on from bad to worse, deceiving {and} leading astray others and being deceived {and} led astray themselves.
 
Deuteronomy 22:10 Do not plow with an ox and a donkey yoked together.

Linking side by side two different species of different height and gait, and making them pull together, would be an act of cruelty. 

Leviticus 19:19 . . . Do not mate different kinds of animals. . . .

John 14:15, 21, 23-24 says:  If you love me, you will obey what I command. … Whoever has my commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves me. He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him and show myself to him. …. If anyone loves me, he will obey my teaching. My Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him. He who does not love me will not obey my teaching. These words you hear are not my own; they belong to the Father who sent me.

 
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Not enough is being done

Not that child porn would be unique in this regard: police regularly overstate the value of drugs and cigarettes they seize.

Disturbing arrest Winnipeg Sun –  By CHRIS KITCHING, SUN MEDIA Winnipeg police detectives are using a new computer program to sort more quickly through child porn collections — including one allegedly belonging to a 22-year-old man accused of sexually assaulting his two stepsisters
Digital tool helps police deal with child porn investigations CBC.ca

New software is allowing Winnipeg police to use automated image matching to cut down the amount of time officers have to spend looking at child pornography.

The Winnipeg force has seized several million images and videos of children being sexually abused since its internet child exploitation unit was launched in 2001.In the past, investigators were forced to view each photograph or video individually to identify potential victims and categorize the images for court purposes.The new software, which the force has been testing for more than a year, allows police to “fingerprint” and categorize known images of child abuse, then store them in a database.

The database currently includes about 12 million image “fingerprints,” which are matched against newly seized, uncategorized images, thereby reducing the officers’ exposure to much of the horrifying material.

 


New software cracks down on child sex abuse CTV.ca
Winnipeg Free Press – CJOB – Winnipeg Sun – Winnipeg Free Press

 all 30 news articles »

Meanwhile  a Liberal too, Ont. Senator’s aide charged with violent sex assault Canada.com –  A senior aide to Liberal Senator Art Eggleton has been charged in connection with what police described as a violent sexual assault.Robert Meinzer, 38, is facing nine criminal charges, including forcible confinement, sexual assault, choking, sodomy and extortion. He is also charged with break and enter with intent, sexual assault, assault, and two counts of assault with a weapon.Before joining Eggleton’s office, Meinzer worked as special assistant, parliamentary affairs and appointments, for then-Minister of Social Development Ken Dryden. He also served in Secretary of State for Multiculturalism and Status of Women Jean Augustine’s Hill office as an assistant for about nine months.

Eggleton aide accused in rape Toronto Sun
Eggleton aide faces sodomy, confinement charges TheChronicleHerald.ca
Canoe.ca – Globe and Mail – The Province – AOL Canada

all 12 news articles »

All porn should be banned on the internet..

ADULTERY

 Mark 10:19 You know the commandments: Do not kill, do not commit adultery, do not steal, do not bear false witness, do not defraud, honor your father and mother.  

Mark 10:1 AND [Jesus] left there [Capernaum] and went to the region of Judea and beyond [east of] the Jordan; and crowds [constantly] gathered around Him again, and as was His custom, He began to teach them again.
Mark 10:2 And some Pharisees came up, and, in order to test Him {and} try to find a weakness in Him, asked, Is it lawful for a man to dismiss {and} repudiate {and} divorce his wife?
Mark 10:3 He answered them, What did Moses command you?
Mark 10:4 They replied, Moses allowed a man to write a bill of divorce and to put her away.
Mark 10:5 But Jesus said to them, Because of your hardness of heart [your condition of insensibility to the call of God] he wrote you this precept in your Law.
Mark 10:6 But from the beginning of creation God made them male and female.
Mark 10:7 For this reason a man shall leave [behind] his father and his mother {and be} {joined to his wife and cleave closely to her permanently,}
Mark 10:8 And the two shall become one flesh, so that they are no longer two, but one flesh.
Mark 10:9 What therefore God has united (joined together), let not man separate {or} divide.
Mark 10:10 And indoors the disciples questioned Him again about this subject.
Mark 10:11 And He said to them, Whoever dismisses (repudiates and divorces) his wife and marries another commits adultery against her;
Mark 10:12 And if a woman dismisses (repudiates and divorces) her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.

Wrongfully too many even Christian Couples get more concerned about their standard of earthly living than the quality of their spiritual life. About having a good time over time spent with the Lord Jesus Christ. They neglect God, they in fact are having an affair with the world.. So next it naturally is not remarkable they will also commit marital affairs too. because  they now next do get caught up in the supposedly stressful task of earning a living, getting ahead  and do neglect God and  each other. They now clearly do not have God’s provision, strength to handle life or their marriage.. They now also  maybe are energized at work, but tired at home. The man supposedly is now too busy  to give his wife the love she needs; or  the wife neglects giving her husband and also the same the sexual attention he needs. The next thing they know , they both even fall into adulterous sexual temptation, and seem to have set each other up for an affair. 1 Corinthians 7:2-5. When the husband fails to give his wife the unique attention she needs and the wife fails to give her husband the unique attention he needs, they create a set of circumstances that gives the devil an opportunity to tempt them to go outside the marriage for what they should be providing for each other in the marriage.  The solution firstly is getting back personally to God. Wounded marriages can be made whole but only if both off the spouses firstly get right with God. Too often that is not the case still.
 
Material and emotional neglect or even  being abused by a spouse is not grounds for divorce, but   any abuse it is ground for calling the police or martial separation..  material and emotional neglect is grounds for separation too.. unless you actually are the cause of it, the real instigator?

 
On clear Fools WHO think they can have a happy life, a happy marriage, can be doing their own thing, all without God too. Failure to daily  read and to apply  the Bible regularly as individuals and as couples seriously now leaves a point of spiritual vulnerability the devil can use to tear couples apart. Read the Bible together. In the population of people I counsel, I see less than 10 percent of the couples reading the Bible together. Failure to read the Bible regularly as individuals and as couples leaves a point of spiritual vulnerability the devil can use to tear couples apart.  Pray together , do have a brief time of prayer together at the beginning of the day, end of the day, or both times—a prayer time WILL HELP YOU TO  spiritually unite.  Be always still loving, considerate, patient with, kind to each other.  Learn to talk to each other, if you love someone you will talk to them.. Don’t try to force solutions to the problems per your demands, time, schedule even. But don’t deceive yourself into thinking problems you don’t deal with will go away. If you deny them and suppress them, they often will erode the foundation of your marriage and put distance between you. Be always verbally and physically affectionate with each other more than you are to theirs especially like your mother, father, brother and sister otherwise it will show how little you love them . . Don’t take each other for granted.  Put each other before your children. God called you to be married before He called you to be a parent.   Guard your conversation even from language that  sends the wrong kind of message to your spouse. 
   
(Luke 12:57 KJV) Yea, and why even of yourselves judge ye not what is right?

Mark 14:21 For the Son of Man is going as it stands written concerning Him; but woe to that man by whom the Son of Man is betrayed! It would have been good (profitable and wholesome) for that man if he had never been born.

Sadly too many martial relationships today follow a very predictable pattern:

-The marriage partners push their spouse for total commitment

-They try hard get mostly what they want

-They next too often even lose interest in the sex

-They next become attracted to someone else

-They start cheating with the someone else

-They become angry and resentful for the guilt they feel

-They begin telling their original partner, spouse that they need time apart

-They mostly blame their old partner, spouse for their behavior…and eventually, after making themselves and everyone around them miserable for an indefinite, but usually, a long period of time, they do end their relationships, marriages.

Next even the new relationships and marriages will likely continue to follow this same pattern.

 

 Do not let the sun go done on your anger, hurts, learn how to deal with it, to resolve them.Forgiveness happens as an ongoing act of one’s will, committment. The guilty spouse must ask the offended spouse for forgiveness. The offended spouse must take the step of accepting the apology and granting forgiveness. And here if you do not forgive God will not forgive you next too. We all have many things we daily need God’s forgivess for too.

 
  Immediately after a forced separation this is a very dangerous time in the recovery process. Couples separated more than 3 days ate rarefy reconciled next, or healed. A lesson we learn from this is that the pleasure of an adulterous relationship, pleasure of self centeredness  is never worth the price that next  has to be paid for it!

 

 

 

Dream on if most of you falsely still think a new marriage may be better too.. rarely is it the case..
 
Now we should all know that adultery is a sin and one has to repent of it lest a worse thing next happens to them, like even more shame and more public humiliations even!!!
 
Clearly (Gal 6:7)  Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man sows, that shall he also reap.
 
(Luke 12:3 KJV)  Therefore whatsoever ye have spoken in darkness shall be heard in the light; and that which ye have spoken in the ear in closets shall be proclaimed upon the housetops.
 
 Luke 16:18 Whoever divorces (dismisses and repudiates) his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.
 
“For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away…” -Malachi 2:16
 
“Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” -Matthew 19:6
 
 Divorce and remarriages is always is a sin!  Perhaps you may try to think that marriage is the “old fashioned” way.  The first marriage is the “right and only way”
 
 To divorce your spouse is always a sin, and you will also be responsible for their sinning if they remarry.  But you can’t be held responsible for your spouse if they’re already committing the sin on their own.
 
 According to some  reliable sources, more married  married women these days now  have had an affair during the course of their marriage over the married men, Such acts on part of men or women are never acceptable. God still does makes people to pay a terrible price for destroying a home. Some few people  fortunately do learn the terrible price adultery extracts from everyone involved and readily conclude that whatever pleasure may be involved is never worth the price: the loss of fellowship with the Lord; potential loss of spouse and children; and, embarrassment and humiliation among friends. King David was one of them. He David confessed his sins to God and God forgive him, but he still paid negative consequences as a result too.
 
Psalm 39:1   A Psalm of David. I said, I will take heed to my ways, that I sin not with my tongue: I will keep my mouth with a bridle, while the wicked is before me.
2  I was dumb with silence, I held my peace, even from good; and my sorrow was stirred.
3  My heart was hot within me, while I was musing the fire burned: then spake I with my tongue,
4  LORD, make me to know mine end, and the measure of my days, what it is; that I may know how frail I am.
5  Behold, thou hast made my days as an handbreadth; and mine age is as nothing before thee: verily every man at his best state is altogether vanity. Selah.
6  Surely every man walketh in a vain show: surely they are disquieted in vain: he heapeth up riches, and knoweth not who shall gather them.
7  And now, Lord, what wait I for? my hope is in thee.
8  Deliver me from all my transgressions: make me not the reproach of the foolish.
9  I was dumb, I opened not my mouth; because thou didst it.
10  Remove thy stroke away from me: I am consumed by the blow of thine hand.
11  When thou with rebukes dost correct man for iniquity, thou makest his beauty to consume away like a moth: surely every man is vanity. Selah.
12  Hear my prayer, O LORD, and give ear unto my cry; hold not thy peace at my tears: for I am a stranger with thee, and a sojourner, as all my fathers were.
13  O spare me, that I may recover strength, before I go hence, and be no more.
  
If your spouse continues to commit aultery and is unrepentant, you next either divorce them or separate from them.. but you no longer live with them. Matthew 5:32, Jesus said, “But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.” 

Historically, biblically In the New Testament times, Bible  there was also no practice of polygamy amongst any of the Christians or the apostles, church leaders. 

Polygamy ALSO IS A SIN, is wrong because it necessarily involves adultery. That is why it  and homsexuality is not specifically banned anywhere in the New testament Bible – because it is covered by the applicable old testament laws that deal with adultery and homsexuality .
 
If you have sex with someone other than your wife then it is adultery, and simply going through a ceremony, even if it is legally valid, cannot make that second woman into a wife in the eyes of God.
 
Adultery is stealing the sex that does not belong to you, it belongs to another man or women.
 
99.9 percent of the Christians have never practiced polygamy for centuries now too and that alone should have been quite explicit the clear condemnation of polygamy.     

 (Lev 21:7 KJV)  They shall not take a wife that is a whore, or profane; neither shall they take a woman put away from her husband: for he is holy unto his God.

In the ongoing secular societies of today sex sins, specially sex outside of marriage, adultery  is personally still taken much too lightly, but these sins for Christians also do have real, serious negative consequences, the disapproval of God clearly indicated now in the Bible. In reality when one has indulged in adultery, one has tended to also simultaneously or previously indulged in many other unacceptable sins now too.  Over 55 percent of evangelical pastors have committed adultery now too in North America… and it is no wonder they wrongfully tend to counsel divorce too.
 
The mouth of strange women is a deep pit: he that is abhorred of the LORD shall fall therein. (Proverbs 22:14 KJV)
  
Don’t even look at any “strange women.” If you do, you will utter perverse things.  Proverbs 23:33
   
(Exo 20:14 KJV)  Thou shalt not commit adultery.
  

GOD STILL DOES PUNISH THE SIN OF ADULTERY/POLYGAMY

DO SEE ALSO

http://pbulow.tripod.com/adultery.html

http://pbulow.tripod.com/polygamy.htm 

Mark 10:20 And he replied to Him, Teacher, I have carefully guarded {and} observed all these {and} taken care not to violate them from my boyhood. 21  And Jesus, looking upon him, loved him, and He said to him, You lack one thing; go and sell all you have and give [the money] to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come [and] accompany Me [walking the same road that I walk].   

Mark 10:23 And Jesus looked around and said to His disciples, With what difficulty will those who possess wealth {and} keep on holding it enter the kingdom of God!

Can a person change?

Now can a Person change themselves?  Is there hope for anyone?
 
Some people say that recognition of the problems, obstacles is basically 90 percent of the solution, and I really do also wish that next was true..
 
Now we all seem to meet all type  of persons in real life, the control freaks, verbal and human right abusers, Bullies, enslavers, liars, cheaters, imposters, pretenders, con artists too.  And we often simply do wonder why they do not change..
 
Here also is what I know for sure, the older the person is the more extreme, more severe, the more difficult the punishment has  to be on them to cause them to personally to change in their own  negative ways, for they are too set in them now too.   
   
Beware though — still today most bad persons resist changing, and do  employ false denial techniques of their wrongs, deny wrongfully their own need to change and next even build even more walls between them and others. You can see this bad approach used by  alcoholics now as well most of the time..
  
Being nice. kind, friendly  to a really bad person  is still also a complete waste of time, for they will not change their negative behaviors on their own, they see   no reasons to do so now still too. Sad but true. We cannot never control a bad person, a drug addict or an alcoholic, but we can learn all about it and learn firstly to control our own behavior, appropriate responses –including how we should behave in the relationship with the  sick and suffering and /or possibly manipulative addict or alcoholic, abuser.. 

 
In fact it is next impossible for anyone to try to to change others. I have seen many marriage fail cause the wife was naïve to believe she could change her husband instead of accepting him for who, what he was at the time of marriage. After all it is easier to change oneself than others too but wrongfully most people try to change others and not themselves. If it was supposedly easy to change anyone then we would not need prisons for the too often now habitually criminals in reality.
 
In reality also now whether you are talking now about a parent, a relative,  a spouse, criminals, alcoholics, drug addicts to what ever no one basically can be helped firstly who refused to admit they need help, and next also refuses thus next any help to change now as well.
 
And in truth the only people I have ever seen who manifested any  lasting, real changes were these people changed by God, who had next became born again, and to be fully truthful here too next half of them even got worse again next, a dog who returned to their vomit, they denied next the DENIED THE SAME FAITH THEY BELIEVED IN TOO.
 
The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous rightfully says that only God can next heal, relieve the sin, the illness of addiction. It requires the addictive person to first confess they have sinned and next ask for God’s forgiveness, help. 
 
Too many a persons also do falsely deny who they really are, hiding behind prestigious or pretentious facade that they are unknown, cannot be discerned, read, known cause they are too complex.. you can fool some of the people some of the time, most of the people most of the time but not all of the people all of the time..
 
Jesus himself said a person can be known simply by what they do. good people do good things.. and bad people tend to do bad things. 
 
(Mat 7:18 KJV)  A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit.
 
(Mat 7:19 KJV)  Every tree that bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire.
 
(Mat 7:20 KJV)  Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them.
 
(Mat 7:21 KJV)  Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.
 
(Mat 7:22 KJV)  Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works?
 
(Mat 7:23 KJV)  And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.
 
(Mat 7:24 KJV)  Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock:
 
(Mat 7:25 KJV)  And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock.
 
(Mat 7:26 KJV)  And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand:
 
(Mat 7:27 KJV)  And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it.  
 
 
Helping others to change for the good is even more difficult today as well
              
  
Reality- Today many Children are also being falsely led to  believe that Gambling, Alcohol and Bad drug use is generally  safe. The average 18 year old has seen 100,000 television commercials encouraging him or her to drink. That’s why 80% of high school seniors have tried alcohol, 32% have gotten drunk in the last thirty days, 43% smoke marijuana, and about one third are smoking cigarettes. Most addicts die of their addiction and they take their family members down with them. The first step in any help program recovery is to get honest with yourself. Get honest even as to what the other person is really like.. Do not let them take you down the drain with them next too.. Control what you watch, read, hear and what your children watch, put the computer also in the family room where you can supervise it, see what they are doing with it. 
We all also must take any personal addiction seriously especially amongst teens, and the adults now too,  because 25% of North Americans die as a result of substance abuse. The average alcoholic dies twenty-six years earlier than he or she would otherwise. Drug users, alcoholics, cheaters, abusers, adulterers affect negatively continually too the lives of at least six others
 
Establish Boundaries, Set Limits, Set detachment.  One example of setting a boundary is telling a close friend, a loved one  that you prefer they not be around you if they are smoking,  drunk or high. Notice that it is specific demand, and you have to sit down and communicate this type of request explicitly with that someone. Setting a boundary like this is difficult because there is this tendency to hurt other’s feelings. But that is part of what is keeping you ineffective– your caring more about this person’s feelings than your own personal well being. Setting boundaries is about putting your own personal well being and even that of others first, and letting that be a guiding example of how to live. You know you are setting effective boundaries when you are taking back control of your own life firstly and starting to regain your own sanity–instead of being all wrapped up in the problems of a struggling smoker, rebel, drug addict or alcoholic. 
 
The fastest way for anyone to change is by prayers, them also praying, even by the prayers of others, reading the Bible as well.. valid support groups also still can either be pretentious, fake, wolves in sheep clothing,   or helpful?  Beware always of men and women, bullies, tormentors, control freaks,  persons, civil and public servants,  politicians, pastors, leaders, elders, who falsely do, will try to enslave you, oppress you, exploit you even while they claim they are proclaiming the truth, democracy, trying to help you, etc.,    Is 51:23 ..your tormentors {and} oppressors, those who said to you, Bow down, that we may ride {or} tread over you; and you have made your back like the ground and like the street for them to pass over.   

“Here are some things that you can do in order to practice detachment with the struggling pervert in your life:
-Don’t do things that they should be doing themselves.
-Don’t bend over backwards to rescue them or save them from natural consequences.
-Don’t cover up for their mistakes or embarrassing situations.
-Don’t rescue them from crisis or financial situations.
-Don’t try to fix them.
-Let go of any guilt you may have about them.
   
Detachment is not about denying your emotions. If someone close to you dies, for example, you will probably feel sad. You can’t choose this feeling. It simply is. But we do have the power to affect the intensity of this feeling, by focusing on the positive aspects of the situation. We can also change our thinking in an attempt to eradicate irrational beliefs that might be contributing to our emotional turmoil.

The goal is not to go without emotions, the goal is to achieve some level of emotional stability. We are detaching from the negative, irrational thoughts that stir up our emotions–like the guilt we might have if we think someone’s perversity, addiction is our fault.
Detachment is difficult and takes practice.” 
 
Summary: How to help a teenager that does not listen or how to make a bad person change to a good person.. are some of the very common search questions for this topic now too.. the critical word being change.. you can set clear boundaries, detachments, and  give wise verbal instruction to a wise person, or some kind of a reward incentive, but still he may or may not next listen to it and follow it.. a foolish person  certainly will not listen to good advice for a start, may need to hopefully learn the hard way with a rod of life’s correction LIKE THE PRODIGAL SON NEXT DID .. for  you cannot hope to change anyone still by yourself without God’s help, input in reality. Humble Prayer is the starting method in getting God’s help.
 
(Jer 14:7 KJV)  O LORD, though our iniquities testify against us, do thou it for thy name’s sake: for our backslidings are many; we have sinned against thee.
 
(Jer 2:19 KJV)  Thine own wickedness shall correct thee, and thy backslidings shall reprove thee: know therefore and see that it is an evil thing and bitter, that thou hast forsaken the LORD thy God, and that my fear is not in thee, saith the Lord GOD of hosts.
 
(Jer 3:22 KJV)  Return, ye backsliding children, and I will heal your backslidings. Behold, we come unto thee; for thou art the LORD our God.
 
(Jer 5:6 KJV)  Wherefore a lion out of the forest shall slay them, and a wolf of the evenings shall spoil them, a leopard shall watch over their cities: every one that goeth out thence shall be torn in pieces: because their transgressions are many, and their backslidings are increased.
 

It also now seems that unresolved problems tend to make us seek God. How to draw closer to God. You have wanted God to speak to you for a long time. You have wanted to talk to God and get answers back. This  is an opportunity for you to have a dialogue with God. God too wants to communicate with you. You might have been in church, a crusade, in your room, or outside under the stars. You felt God’s call, but you didn’t know exactly what God wanted you to do. You knew you were going to do something special, but you didn’t know what it was. Now you can also find out God’s plan for you, and others too and the literature is all free too.   It teaches you how to hear God’s voice.  God will teach you many things you need to know.  Valid spiritual tools to help you make conscious contact with God: Praise, Prayer, Humbleness, Obedience, the Bible. Get yourself ready where God speaks to you  Do see http://pbulow.tripod.com/wait.html   and http://pbulow.tripod.com/voice.html   
 
Do see also
http://pbulow.tripod.com/
http://thenonconformer.wordpress.com/2008/07/21/hidden-agendas/  
http://postedat.wordpress.com/2008/07/21/the-pretender-imposter-wolf-in-sheep-clothing/  
http://postedat.wordpress.com/2008/07/07/control-freaks/  
http://www.socyberty.com/Advice/Are-You-a-Control-Freak.101788  
http://postedat.wordpress.com/2008/07/24/wrongful-accusations/   
https://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/07/03/verbal-abuse-is-always-unacceptable-too/