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FIRSTLY DID YOU MAKE A MISTAKE, A SERIOUS ONE AND PUT YOUR FAMILY BEFORE GOD, FOR GOD NEXT WILL SHOW YOU YOUR ERROR, HE WILL SHOW YOU WHAT YOUR FAMILY IS REALLY LIKE NOW TOO..

Mat 10:34 Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. Mat 10:35 For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. Mat 10:36 And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. Mat 10:37 He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Mat 10:38 And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.

These days it is very likley that you get divorced as likley as you will get cancer or a heart disease.. many divorces are ALSO caused even by outside influences.. such by the input of bad persons too… demons such as lawyers, bad judges, relatives and the  bad pastors too.. http://thenonconformer.wordpress.com/2014/01/04/the-problem-of-doing-your-own-thing/

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John 4:16    Jesus saith unto her, Go, call thy husband, and come hither. 17    The woman answered and said, I have no husband. Jesus said unto her, Thou hast well said, I have no husband: 18    For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly.

I draw your attention to this women that Jesus himself had  encountered whose numerous husbands did not meet her needs.

John 4: 10    Jesus answered and said unto her, If thou knewest the gift of God, and who it is that saith to thee, Give me to drink; thou wouldest have asked of him, and he would have given thee living water. 13    Jesus answered and said unto her, Whosoever drinketh of this water shall thirst again: 14    But whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life. 15    The woman saith unto him, Sir, give me this water, that I thirst not, neither come hither to draw.

God alone has the sole final thirst quencher too..

 All these clearly fools, perverse judges, lawyers, and spouses show us all openly again and again what they are realy like by their own bad acts HERE TOO. http://thenonconformer.wordpress.com/2009/01/02/divorce-and-remarriage-in-the-christian-church/
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Sad but true also that  most liars falsely do not admit lying is a bad sin..Sad that most people do lie..cause they falsely still do beleive that it can produce good for them and others.. but that is not so.. and. continual liars do now even become mentally sick persons.. http://canada.today.tripod.com/d/lying.htm
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LET’S ALSO  NOT PRETEND TO BE DUMB AND DENY THAT MANY OF THE SPOUSES AND THEIR LAWYERS, SUPPORTERS OFTEN WASTE THE COURT’S TIME AND TAX PAYER’S MONEY FOR  THEY DO LIE IN DIVORCE DISPUTE TO THE COURTS TOO.. DO COMMIT PERJURY TO TH COURTS  AND RARELY FACE ANY NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES FOR IT.
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One cause of many of the marriage problem is a false pride, family pride, the lying wife even bragging how good her family, parents are or how good her husband is.. for pride is a very deadly sin, and also the problem of gifts.. There is no one who is Just, Good according to the Bible too. 

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(Deu 16:19 KJV)  Thou shalt not wrest judgment; thou shalt not respect persons, neither take a gift: for a gift doth blind the eyes of the wise, and pervert the words of the righteous.
(Prov 17:8 KJV)  A gift is as a precious stone in the eyes of him that hath it: whithersoever it turneth, it prospereth.
(Prov 17:23 KJV)  A wicked man taketh a gift out of the bosom to pervert the ways of judgment.
(Eccl 7:7 KJV)  Surely oppression maketh a wise man mad; and a gift destroyeth the heart.
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Perverted by gifts.  I have seen it happen, Husbands have complained about it to me as well, one  of many serious reasons a marriage can break down is the meddling in laws, where the mother and father in law, brother or sister give a gift to the wife, and she next indecently, independently  refuses to share this gift with her husband, but on top of that she loses respect for her husband, cause he did not give this money to her, this same gift is actually a bribe that destroys the marriage. The gift should have been given to the husband and not the wife.
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(1 Cor 11:3 KJV)  But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
(Eph 5:23 KJV)  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
(1 Pet 2:7 KJV)  Unto you therefore which believe he is precious: but unto them which be disobedient, the stone which the builders disallowed, the same is made the head of the corner,
(Psa 5:5 KJV)  The foolish shall not stand in thy sight: thou hatest all workers of iniquity.
(Prov 9:6 KJV)  Forsake the foolish, and live; and go in the way of understanding.
(Prov 9:13 KJV)  A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing.
(Prov 14:1 KJV)  Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
(Prov 15:7 KJV)  The lips of the wise disperse knowledge: but the heart of the foolish doeth not so.
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Many people falsely believe that because they are married  professing Christians they are spared, immune from all marriage problems and divorce. The high rate of divorce amongst even evangelical Christians is also now due to the fact they are merely Playing religion and merely going to church for show which is totally inadequate as well. No matter what the false excuse, false justification one now offers, when one is often busy doing their own will, their own thing  and following after mere men instead of God directly, and with continual ungodliness and continuing in sin without continual repentance, it is not at all now possible even by grace to even stay as  a genuine believer! Next that is why as I have  have witnessed directly the last 5 decades too that at least 50 percent of once loudly professing Christians now they are no longer by their own personal choice too walking with God. A recent survey shows that 70 percent of evangelical pastors have admitted to adultery, and about 30 percent of evangelicals practice martial divorce that God hates as a direct result too. Their spiritual downfall is related that almost all of these people really do not know God, they have heard of him, but they are drastically failing to personally know him more everyday, especially  when 85 percent of professing Christians are playing religion only, for they do spend less than 5 minutes a day in God’s word, thus with God. When they all, even the pastors now should be with God in prayer  and in his word at least one hour a day.. yet these same people can find time for other bad things though. So God is not mocked what they sow they reap, and where they the sow nothing, they reap nothing.. For faith comes by hearing and hearing comes from abiding in God Word, the same Bible, word that will keep a believer in God’s will and will keep them next from sin. The unrepentant sins will keep a person next away from prayer, God and the Bible.. many professing Christians have clearly built their house on sinking sand instead of the solid rock Jesus thus. Be ye also doers of God’s words and not mere hearers.
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If you still do have a God shaped vacuum that is unfilled, then no other things, no relationships or careers, goals, next will satisfy you, not any personal, social, community relationships..
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Note this reality.. like it or not.. believe it or not..
Both fornicators and adulterers are excluded from Heaven. They are pursuing vanities as far as God is concerned..
 
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“Have you not known that the unrighteous the reign of God shall not inherit? Be not led astray; neither whoremongers, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, the reign of God shall inherit. And certain of you were these! But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were declared righteous, in the name of the Lord Jesus, and in the Spirit of our God” (1 Cor 6:9).
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(James 4:5 KJV)  Do ye think that the scripture saith in vain, The spirit that dwelleth in us lusteth to envy?
  
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(Eccl 7:17 KJV)  Be not over much wicked, neither be thou foolish: why shouldest thou die before thy time?
(Jer 5:4 KJV)  Therefore I said, Surely these are poor; they are foolish: for they know not the way of the LORD, nor the judgment of their God.
(Ezek 13:3 KJV)  Thus saith the Lord GOD; Woe unto the foolish prophets, that follow their own spirit, and have seen nothing!
(Gal 3:3 KJV)  Are ye so foolish? having begun in the Spirit, are ye now made perfect by the flesh?
(1 Tim 6:9 KJV)  But they that will be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into many foolish and hurtful lusts, which drown men in destruction and perdition.
(Titus 3:3 KJV)  For we ourselves also were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving divers lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another.
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We all do even  need to seriously know, differentiate between how God now deals with the wicked, those persons deliberately disobedient to him, he God does not go along with them for sure .. God’s grace of forgiveness even does not extend to everyone..
and next the righteous those people who put their trust in him.. God is merciful, kind to them, but not all professing Christians now are righteous for sure as well.
 
Every time you do openly speak or write a great truth, a valid complaint now too,  the devil next will try to use someone to try to discredit it and you and I do not have to accept it too. Verbal, emotional, physical, legal, Human rights  abuses are unacceptable for all.. Ironically some  of the biggest bullies I have encountered in Canada themselves had claimed to be good persons and that they themselves supposedly  were being bullied, abused by others .The issue of dealing effectively with the too many  false bullies on the web also now needs to be addressed..  I too do believe that we all have the right , in turns, to speak , to be heard as well, still when I see any person next resorting to merely personal attacks, name calling of others, such as  calling them ” Vile, Low Life, Criminal, Hoodlum,  Scum Bag , Crass Miscreant, Serial Online criminal, and disgusting Sociopath  ”  they should note that firstly themselves have lost it all already.. have lost both support and credibility now as well, for in fact they now are no better than the person they are supposedly complaining about. Even if they call themselves now professing Christians for Satan and his fallen angels also like to masquerade themselves as Angels of light. Messengers of the truth.. for  I do next also expose what they are like, really bad persons, to all..  I did not hesitate to expose now rightfully such person myself.. even if they were relatives of mine.. or fellow citizens.   By their own doings, fruit you still tell what a person now is like.. (Mat 7:2 KJV)  For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. 3  And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? 4  Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? 5  Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye. .
Verbal abuse is always unacceptable too. So are the Bullies now too
Many People usually accuse others of what they are guilty themselves, that is why they are so concious of it often..
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Desperate people try also to get personal about others when they cannot disprove the facts.. But still how ironic they are now even next condemned  by their own words, the beam in their  own eyes, and the distorted  accusations of others thus! People who ask others not to judge them ironically are often  judging the others  for supposedly judging the others.

God still does not overlook unrepentant sins.. so wake up.. especially the sins involving the abuse of others. The abusers now matter who they are seem to like to  give it to others but can’t take a rebuke themslves  ehh..  they need to Stop telling the  others what to do .. to live it themsrlves first .. for what you are speak louder than any of your words

when the Holy Spirit comes he will also reprove the world of sin, judgment, righteousness.. and not be an Ostrich to their  own sins, wrong doings

I do not think much of control freaks, bullies too and do   see also my many posts on how to deal with control freaks.. abusers..
  
for example

http://postedat.wordpress.com/2009/07/16/abused/

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Why the high divorce rates?

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In some parts of the country, cities the divorce rate is as high as 70 percent, and for those of you who wrongfully think it does not cause suffering, a lowering of one standard of living, serious health problems then do naively dream on.. take an ostrich approach.. but the alarm bells will keep you awake, sleepless at night too.. this now all sound extremist? but that is the reality.. People continue to do their own thing.. and I next still wonder why one of the most searched topic on my family site is how to deal with an abusive, or an alcoholic, or a control freak spouse.. an ounce of prevention is worth a ton of cure here too..  And why is there so many difficult maritial partners? http://postedat.wordpress.com/2010/09/26/marriage-problems-or-a-realtionship-problem/
 
Now I have been pastoring, even blogging on the net  since the advent of computers and I have written thousands of posts now too.. but what amazes me always still is that the most common  personal prayer requests is still firstly for a good soul mate – a great spouse, and next to get a good paying job followed by a prayer for healing from sickness.. and few people ask, pray what can I do for you Lord Jesus today? Why is that?  http://postedat.wordpress.com/2010/11/09/what-should-be-the-key-goal-in-ones-life-be/
 
Face it the single biggest cause of depression basically is your own doings and not just a bad marriage.. But don’t expect any marriage to make you happier over having a personal relationship with God still or the new or old marriage to be a false substitute for having a personal relationship with God. I have been recently counseling a person who desperately wants to be remarried, she has been twice married, but she is not interesting in following after God only after her own desires, lusts.. so no marriage for her will make her happy or replace God’s vacuum in her life still too. God has not promised you now even a right of remarriage.. but he promised you peace, joy and happiness and yes you can have that outside of marriage with Jesus..
Yes  the most common religious search question on the net on my site is not how can I serve now God better but rather can I marry a non Christian?  and people who are asking the question clearly do not read, they do not know their  Bible for the answer is always no! No you cannot marry a non Christian , nor can you have sex outside of valid marriage now as well, nor can Christians get divorced according to the Bible now too.. Like it or not that is still what God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit, the Bible say.
               
 spousal relationships is the most important aspect?
The supposedly Important MARRIAGE  Intimacies? SELF CENTERED GOALS?
–  a bond of Spiritual Intimacy… but the FIRST all important relationship is not that  between a husband and wife but that one with  God!  Too often God is neglected and why is that? No excuses here are acceptable.
– Emotional Intimacy… the “heart to heart” connection the intimate couple CRAVED BY EMOTIONAL WOMEN?  and certainly not by men, many men tend to lie to women to make them feel good here..
– Intellectual Intimacy… SEEMS TO BY PASS ANY NEED FOR  LOVE.. Though we allow one another to be unique,  is it important that we share common core values? A truly intimate couple will often even think the same thing? or be led by the same evil spirit? REAL LOVE ACCEPTS A PERSON THE WAY THEY ARE EVEN WITH THE DIFFERENCES.
– Sexual Intimacy or Sexual compatibilty  IS VERY IMPORTANT  too? God has designed a very special physical relationship that draws a husband and wife closer than ever? or a lust that causes them to be tempted by others?  Sexual! This seems to be the biggest goal of may persons sadly. Sex still does not make you happy like Jesus does. Many people who have sex are still unhapy with each other, life too.
 
Most marriages that fail still do fail not due to marital intimacy failures but firstly fail  due to laziness, unrealistic expectations, pursuing bad or false values, extreme goals, self centeredness and ADULTERY..
   
Personal relationship with others should be the key goal in one’s life   or is there other more important priorities, goals in life that should be personally  followed? 
 
Adultery is a sin God punishes..
  
(Psa 50:18 KJV)  When thou sawest a thief, then thou consentedst with him, and hast been partaker with adulterers.
 
(Jer 9:2 KJV)  Oh that I had in the wilderness a lodging place of wayfaring men; that I might leave my people, and go from them! for they be all adulterers, an assembly of treacherous men.
 
(Jer 23:10 KJV)  For the land is full of adulterers; for because of swearing the land mourneth; the pleasant places of the wilderness are dried up, and their course is evil, and their force is not right.
 
(Hosea 7:4 KJV)  They are all adulterers, as an oven heated by the baker, who ceaseth from raising after he hath kneaded the dough, until it be leavened.
 
(Mal 3:5 KJV)  And I will come near to you to judgment; and I will be a swift witness against the sorcerers, and against the adulterers, and against false swearers, and against those that oppress the hireling in his wages, the widow, and the fatherless, and that turn aside the stranger from his right, and fear not me, saith the LORD of hosts.
 
(1 Cor 6:9 KJV)  Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
 
(Heb 13:4 KJV)  Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
 
(James 4:4 KJV)  Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.
 
(Rev 3:12 KJV)  Him that overcometh will I make a pillar in the temple of my God, and he shall go no more out: and I will write upon him the name of my God, and the name of the city of my God, which is new Jerusalem, which cometh down out of heaven from my God: and I will write upon him my new name.
 
(Rev 14:7 KJV)  Saying with a loud voice, Fear God, and give glory to him; for the hour of his judgment is come: and worship him that made heaven, and earth, and the sea, and the fountains of waters.
 
(Rev 14:13 KJV)  And I heard a voice from heaven saying unto me, Write, Blessed are the dead which die in the Lord from henceforth: Yea, saith the Spirit, that they may rest from their labours; and their works do follow them.
 
(Rev 18:4 KJV)  And I heard another voice from heaven, saying, Come out of her, my people, that ye be not partakers of her sins, and that ye receive not of her plagues.
 
(Rev 18:5 KJV)  For her sins have reached unto heaven, and God hath remembered her iniquities.
 
(Rev 21:2 KJV)  And I John saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down from God out of heaven, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband.
 
(Rev 1:7 KJV)  Behold, he cometh with clouds; and every eye shall see him, and they also which pierced him: and all kindreds of the earth shall wail because of him. Even so, Amen.
 
(Rev 2:23 KJV)  And I will kill her children with death; and all the churches shall know that I am he which searcheth the reins and hearts: and I will give unto every one of you according to your works.
 
(Rev 3:5 KJV)  He that overcometh, the same shall be clothed in white raiment; and I will not blot out his name out of the book of life, but I will confess his name before my Father, and before his angels.
 
(Rev 3:10 KJV)  Because thou hast kept the word of my patience, I also will keep thee from the hour of temptation, which shall come upon all the world, to try them that dwell upon the earth.
 
(Rev 6:17 KJV)  For the great day of his wrath is come; and who shall be able to stand?
 
(Rev 14:10 KJV)  The same shall drink of the wine of the wrath of God, which is poured out without mixture into the cup of his indignation; and he shall be tormented with fire and brimstone in the presence of the holy angels, and in the presence of the Lamb:
 
(Rev 15:4 KJV)  Who shall not fear thee, O Lord, and glorify thy name? for thou only art holy: for all nations shall come and worship before thee; for thy judgments are made manifest.
 
(Rev 18:7 KJV)  How much she hath glorified herself, and lived deliciously, so much torment and sorrow give her: for she saith in her heart, I sit a queen, and am no widow, and shall see no sorrow.
 
(Rev 18:8 KJV)  Therefore shall her plagues come in one day, death, and mourning, and famine; and she shall be utterly burned with fire: for strong is the Lord God who judgeth her.
 
(Rev 18:9 KJV)  And the kings of the earth, who have committed fornication and lived deliciously with her, shall bewail her, and lament for her, when they shall see the smoke of her burning,
 
(Rev 18:11 KJV)  And the merchants of the earth shall weep and mourn over her; for no man buyeth their merchandise any more:
 
(Rev 18:15 KJV)  The merchants of these things, which were made rich by her, shall stand afar off for the fear of her torment, weeping and wailing,
 
(Rev 18:23 KJV)  And the light of a candle shall shine no more at all in thee; and the voice of the bridegroom and of the bride shall be heard no more at all in thee: for thy merchants were the great men of the earth; for by thy sorceries were all nations deceived.
 
(Rev 20:10 KJV)  And the devil that deceived them was cast into the lake of fire and brimstone, where the beast and the false prophet are, and shall be tormented day and night for ever and ever.
 
(Rev 21:3 KJV)  And I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God.
 
(Rev 21:4 KJV)  And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.
 
(Rev 21:7 KJV)  He that overcometh shall inherit all things; and I will be his God, and he shall be my son.
 
(Rev 21:8 KJV)  But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
 
(Rev 21:27 KJV)  And there shall in no wise enter into it any thing that defileth, neither whatsoever worketh abomination, or maketh a lie: but they which are written in the Lamb’s book of life.
 
(Rev 22:3 KJV)  And there shall be no more curse: but the throne of God and of the Lamb shall be in it; and his servants shall serve him:
 
(Rev 22:4 KJV)  And they shall see his face; and his name shall be in their foreheads.
 
(Rev 22:5 KJV)  And there shall be no night there; and they need no candle, neither light of the sun; for the Lord God giveth them light: and they shall reign for ever and ever.
 
(Rev 22:12 KJV)  And, behold, I come quickly; and my reward is with me, to give every man according as his work shall be.
 
(Rev 22:18 KJV)  For I testify unto every man that heareth the words of the prophecy of this book, If any man shall add unto these things, God shall add unto him the plagues that are written in this book:
 
(Rev 22:19 KJV)  And if any man shall take away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God shall take away his part out of the book of life, and out of the holy city, and from the things which are written in this book.
 
                  
(2 Cor 6:14 KJV)  Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
 
(2 Cor 6:15 KJV)  And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
 
(2 Cor 6:16 KJV)  And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
 
(2 Cor 6:17 KJV)  Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,
 
(2 Cor 6:18 KJV)  And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.
 
(2 Cor 7:1 KJV)  Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.
 
 
 
Generally these days it is the wife who wrongfully files for divorce,and  before that it used to be the men.  These days the too often dirty lawyers who make blood money from divorce, are wolves in sheep clothing now picturing them slves and  the spouse to the courts, as good persons, decent, honest, relaible, falsely claiming her now to be a totally good , honest person, and not another typical  liar too.
 
The lawyers who tend to be too often liars themselves they like to present the female spouse before the Queen’s courts, before the supposedly reputable judge, who in my witness, experiences actual too often is also now a liar, pretender himself, a person  who does not get off the bench cause he is too lazy to ascertain the truth of the facts being presented to him or her.
 
The lawyers like to present the wife as a decent, respected, good, moral person who now has provided faithfully  for her husband, she did not, does not abuse any them not even her bad  husband, she does not cheat, lie or steal now as well.
 
The still mostly  liars like to present her as an a good person, whereas more likely in reality  she also is another demon. In fact men and women tend to be equal sinners, before God and man. In fact the same spouse she likely has slandered, lied, committed adultery, even stole from her spouse and now she will keep on lying, perjuring herself hoping next to get a good alimony support from her spouse.
 
Many a person  when they see these people divorcing they really tend next not to recognize them and their behavior, for it clearly is different from what they had known before, were used too in fact.  
 
All of a sudden clearly new now  openly monsters here have arisen.  In reality  the wife is not the mostly   innocent, the sole injured party and the husband is not the sole bad guy, villain too.
 
All of these mostly immoral,  lying now people, pastors too often too, spouses, laywers, judges tend to first need decent, real, pastoral counseling themselves. http://thenonconformer.wordpress.com/2009/01/02/divorce-and-remarriage-in-the-christian-church/
 
  Christian Lies, Divorce And/or  Christian Divorce  Remarriage, (as well as adultery, fornication , Alcoholism, drugs, smoking, gays)  In the Christian Church are ALL still unacceptable. 
                     
 
  

THE FAMILY-MARRIAGE

THE FAMILY MARRIAGE & DIVORCE AND THE BIBLE TOO. 

  • Without prior prayer to God all one does will fail
  • The marriage, or the job, money,  is not the priority, God firstly and his will is always still the priority
  • if two persons, husband and wife  refuse to walk together with God, the marriage, their  house will fall.. for a house divided cannot stand
  • the Husband is the sole head of the home.. and this is not an option, a pretense
  • if the wife abuses her  husband  God here on earth will punish her too in reality even with divorce and Christian or not
  • if the husband abuses his wife God will punish him here on earth and  not hear his prayers
  • If the children disrespect their parents, they too will reap what they sow, God will, he  punish them too.
(Isa 40:31 KJV)  But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

http://canada.today.tripod.com/d/THE_FAMILY_MARRIAGE.htm

Unfaithful

Luke 16:10 He who is faithful in a very little [thing] is faithful also in much, and he who is dishonest {and} unjust in a very little [thing] is dishonest {and} unjust also in much.
 
 
It  has also been my own witness, experience that most people are sooner or later actually exposed for what they really are, were and they do not get away with it, their too often false pretentions, deceptions.
 
Clearly (Gal 6:7)  Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man sows, that shall he also reap.
 
and you can be sure that the Devil the accuser of the brethren will also make sure it happens next too.. Jesus himself had said
 
(Luke 12:3 KJV)  Therefore whatsoever ye have spoken in darkness shall be heard in the light; and that which ye have spoken in the ear in closets shall be proclaimed upon the housetops.
 
(Luke 12:4 KJV)  And I say unto you my friends, Be not afraid of them that kill the body, and after that have no more that they can do. 5 But I will forewarn you whom ye shall fear: Fear him, which after he hath killed hath power to cast into hell; yea, I say unto you, Fear him.
 
Luke 16:11 Therefore if you have not been faithful in the [case of] unrighteous mammon (deceitful riches, money, possessions), who will entrust to you the true riches? 12 And if you have not proved faithful in that which belongs to another [whether God or man], who will give you that which is your own [that is, the true riches]? 13  No servant is able to serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will stand by {and} be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon (riches, or anything in which you trust and on which you rely). 14  Now the Pharisees, who were covetous {and} lovers of money, heard all these things [taken together], and they began to sneer at {and} ridicule {and} scoff at Him. 15 But He said to them, You are the ones who declare yourselves just {and} upright before men, but God knows your hearts. For what is exalted {and} highly thought of among men is detestable {and} abhorrent (an abomination) in the sight of God. [I Sam. 16:7; Prov. 21:2.]
 
Luke 16:18 Whoever divorces (dismisses and repudiates) his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.
 
and having now acquired, having had riches and wealth does not mean you go to heaven next still too.
 
Luke 16:19 There was a certain rich man who [habitually] clothed himself in purple and fine linen and reveled {and} feasted {and} made merry in splendor every day. 20 And at his gate there was [carelessly] dropped down {and} left a certain utterly destitute man named Lazarus, [reduced to begging alms and] covered with [ulcerated] sores.21 He [eagerly] desired to be satisfied with what fell from the rich man’s table; moreover, the dogs even came and licked his sores.22 And it occurred that the man [reduced to] begging died and was carried by the angels to Abraham’s bosom. The rich man also died and was buried. 23  And in Hades (the realm of the dead), being in torment, he lifted up his eyes and saw Abraham far away, and Lazarus in his bosom. 24 And he cried out and said, Father Abraham, have pity {and} mercy on me and send Lazarus to dip the tip of his finger in water and cool my tongue, for I am in anguish in this flame. 25  But Abraham said, Child, remember that you in your lifetime fully received [what is due you in] comforts {and} delights, and Lazarus in like manner the discomforts {and} distresses; but now he is comforted here and you are in anguish.26  And besides all this, between us and you a great chasm has been fixed, in order that those who want to pass from this [place] to you may not be able, and no one may pass from there to us. 27  And [the man] said, Then, father, I beseech you to send him to my father’s house– 28 For I have five brothers–so that he may give [solemn] testimony {and} warn them, lest they too come into this place of torment.29  But Abraham said, They have Moses and the Prophets; let them hear {and} listen to them. 30 But he answered, No, father Abraham, but if someone from the dead goes to them, they will repent (change their minds for the better and heartily amend their ways, with abhorrence of their past sins).31 He said to him, If they do not hear {and} listen to Moses and the Prophets, neither will they be persuaded {and} convinced {and} believe [even] if someone should rise from the dead.
 
 

Perfect versus Perfectionists

Now I have clearly mentioned that Control freaks tend to be rightfully  guilt ridden sinners, and so they next  try to cover up it with both false denials and a false perfection approach  too… for too many people too often do people try to compensate for an imbalance in one area by an extreme in another area of their own personal life… such as seeking for the perfect mate, perfect job, perfect marriage and they will never, never find it, for this world is really imperfect and you should know that by now too.. AND IN LOVE YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO LIVE WITH IT, TO MAKE THE BEST OF IT STILL ALWAYS TOO.
 
(1 Ki 8:46 KJV)  If they sin against thee, (for there is no man that sinneth not,) and thou be angry with them, and deliver them to the enemy, so that they carry them away captives unto the land of the enemy, far or near;
 
(Eccl 7:20 KJV)  For there is not a just man upon earth, that doeth good, and sinneth not.
 
(John 15:5 KJV)  I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.
 
(John 15:6 KJV)  If a man abide not in me, he is cast forth as a branch, and is withered; and men gather them, and cast them into the fire, and they are burned.
 
(John 15:7 KJV)  If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you.
 
(John 15:8 KJV)  Herein is my Father glorified, that ye bear much fruit; so shall ye be my disciples.
 
(John 15:9 KJV)  As the Father hath loved me, so have I loved you: continue ye in my love.
 
(John 15:10 KJV)  If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love; even as I have kept my Father’s commandments, and abide in his love.
 
(John 15:11 KJV)  These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full.
 
(John 15:12 KJV)  This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.
 
(John 15:13 KJV)  Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
 
(John 15:14 KJV)  Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you.
 
(John 15:15 KJV)  Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.
 
(John 15:16 KJV)  Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you, and ordained you, that ye should go and bring forth fruit, and that your fruit should remain: that whatsoever ye shall ask of the Father in my name, he may give it you.
 
(John 15:17 KJV)  These things I command you, that ye love one another.
 
(1 John 3:6 KJV)  Whosoever abideth in him sinneth not: whosoever sinneth hath not seen him, neither known him.
 
(1 John 5:18 KJV)  We know that whosoever is born of God sinneth not; but he that is begotten of God keepeth himself, and that wicked one toucheth him not.
 
 
NOW IF YOU THINK YOUR SPOUSE IS NON PERFECT, OR THEY ARE A NON CHRISTIAN, ..always do firstly still pray for them daily, pray blessings for them and not rather curses too, ..  AND NOT FALSELY FILE  FOR DIVORCE.. it is as a simple as that too. Only in heaven when we are married to Jesus will we have the perfect marriage, the perfect father, the perfect brother.
 
(Prov 3:7 KJV)  Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.
 
(Prov 3:8 KJV)  It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones.
 
(Prov 3:9 KJV)  Honour the LORD with thy substance, and with the firstfruits of all thine increase:
 
(Prov 3:10 KJV)  So shall thy barns be filled with plenty, and thy presses shall burst out with new wine.
 
(Deu 18:13 KJV)  Thou shalt be perfect with the LORD thy God.
 
(2 Sam 22:31 KJV)  As for God, his way is perfect; the word of the LORD is tried: he is a buckler to all them that trust in him.
 
(2 Sam 22:33 KJV)  God is my strength and power: And he maketh my way perfect.
 
(1 Ki 8:61 KJV)  Let your heart therefore be perfect with the LORD our God, to walk in his statutes, and to keep his commandments, as at this day.
 
(1 Ki 11:4 KJV)  For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not perfect with the LORD his God, as was the heart of David his father.
 
(2 Ki 20:3 KJV)  I beseech thee, O LORD, remember now how I have walked before thee in truth and with a perfect heart, and have done that which is good in thy sight. And Hezekiah wept sore.
 
(1 Chr 29:9 KJV)  Then the people rejoiced, for that they offered willingly, because with perfect heart they offered willingly to the LORD: and David the king also rejoiced with great joy.
 
(2 Chr 16:9 KJV)  For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him. Herein thou hast done foolishly: therefore from henceforth thou shalt have wars.
 
(2 Chr 19:9 KJV)  And he charged them, saying, Thus shall ye do in the fear of the LORD, faithfully, and with a perfect heart.
 
(2 Chr 25:2 KJV)  And he did that which was right in the sight of the LORD, but not with a perfect heart.
 
(Job 1:1 KJV)  There was a man in the land of Uz, whose name was Job; and that man was perfect and upright, and one that feared God, and eschewed evil.
 
(Job 1:8 KJV)  And the LORD said unto Satan, Hast thou considered my servant Job, that there is none like him in the earth, a perfect and an upright man, one that feareth God, and escheweth evil?
 
(Job 8:20 KJV)  Behold, God will not cast away a perfect man, neither will he help the evil doers:
 
(Psa 18:30 KJV)  As for God, his way is perfect: the word of the LORD is tried: he is a buckler to all those that trust in him.
 
(Psa 18:32 KJV)  It is God that girdeth me with strength, and maketh my way perfect.
 
(Psa 19:7 KJV)  The law of the LORD is perfect, converting the soul: the testimony of the LORD is sure, making wise the simple.
 
(Psa 37:37 KJV)  Mark the perfect man, and behold the upright: for the end of that man is peace.
 
(Prov 2:21 KJV)  For the upright shall dwell in the land, and the perfect shall remain in it.
 
(Prov 4:18 KJV)  But the path of the just is as the shining light, that shineth more and more unto the perfect day.
 
(Prov 11:5 KJV)  The righteousness of the perfect shall direct his way: but the wicked shall fall by his own wickedness.
 
(Isa 26:3 KJV)  Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.
 
(Mat 5:48 KJV)  Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.
 
(Mat 19:21 KJV)  Jesus said unto him, If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me.
 
(John 17:23 KJV)  I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one; and that the world may know that thou hast sent me, and hast loved them, as thou hast loved me.
 
(Rom 12:2 KJV)  And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
 
(1 Cor 13:10 KJV)  But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.
 
(2 Cor 12:9 KJV)  And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
 
(Gal 3:3 KJV)  Are ye so foolish? having begun in the Spirit, are ye now made perfect by the flesh?
 
(Eph 4:13 KJV)  Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ:
 
(2 Tim 3:17 KJV)  That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.
 
(Heb 13:21 KJV)  Make you perfect in every good work to do his will, working in you that which is wellpleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ; to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.
 
(James 1:17 KJV)  Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.
 
(James 1:25 KJV)  But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth therein, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed.
 
(Rev 3:2 KJV)  Be watchful, and strengthen the things which remain, that are ready to die: for I have not found thy works perfect before God.
 

Can a non Christian Marry a Christian?

Clearly the New testament says no, and no more now  than any Christian can have any sex outside of marriage now too,  and Like it or not, but why?

(1 Cor 6:15 KJV)  Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. 16    What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.
 
(2 Cor 6:14 KJV)  Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 15  And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 16  And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. 17  Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, 18  And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty. 7:1  Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.    
  

(1 Cor 5:9 KJV)  I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators: 9  Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10  Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. 
 
It has been my own witness now too that every true Christian that disobeyed God and married an unchristian next ended in divorce anyway.
 
 

 

(1 Cor 10:21 KJV)  Ye cannot drink the cup of the Lord, and the cup of devils: ye cannot be partakers of the Lord’s table, and of the table of devils.
(1 Cor 10:22 KJV)  Do we provoke the Lord to jealousy? are we stronger than he?
 
(1 Cor 10:23 KJV)  All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not.
 
2 Corinthians 6:14:  Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

(1 Tim 5:14 KJV)  I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.15   For some are already turned aside after Satan.

1 Corinthians 7:39 A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.

Repentance is in order..

Matthew 5:28 “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

(1 Cor 10:8 KJV)  Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand.

 Mark 7:21 “For from within, out of men’s hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery,”

Marriage is the second most important decision anyone ever makes. And what was the most important? A career? No. The most important decision is to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.  In fact troubled relationships due to religious differences eventually tend to dissolve the marriage and so today, thousands of Christian men and women stand on the threshold of loneliness and discouragement because their husband or wife is not a Christian.  http://www.ncfliving.org/bk_117_nonchristian1.php
 
“Do not intermarry with them, and don’t let your daughters and sons marry their sons and daughters. They will lead your young people away from me to worship other gods. Then the anger of the LORD will burn against you, and he will destroy you.” (Deuteronomy 7:3-4)
 
“Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can goodness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14)
 
 (Rom 13:9 KJV)  For this, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not kill, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Thou shalt not covet; and if there be any other commandment, it is briefly comprehended in this saying, namely, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.   

  
1 Cor 15:33 Do not be so deceived {and} misled! Evil companionships (communion, associations) corrupt {and} deprave good manners {and} morals {and} character.
 
Gal 6:7 Do not be deceived {and} deluded {and} misled; God will not allow Himself to be sneered at (scorned, disdained, or mocked by mere pretensions or professions, or by His precepts being set aside.)   For whatever a man sows, that  is (also)  what he will reap. ( he can  reap too what others have sowed now too)
 
2 Tim 3:13 But wicked men and imposters will go on from bad to worse, deceiving {and} leading astray others and being deceived {and} led astray themselves.
 
Deuteronomy 22:10 Do not plow with an ox and a donkey yoked together.

Linking side by side two different species of different height and gait, and making them pull together, would be an act of cruelty. 

Leviticus 19:19 . . . Do not mate different kinds of animals. . . .

John 14:15, 21, 23-24 says:  If you love me, you will obey what I command. … Whoever has my commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves me. He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him and show myself to him. …. If anyone loves me, he will obey my teaching. My Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him. He who does not love me will not obey my teaching. These words you hear are not my own; they belong to the Father who sent me.

 
see also
 
 

it is not good for the man to dwell alone

God says ‘that it is not good for the man to dwell alone’ (Gen 2:18), therefore he created a wife for Adam.

 I agree  a man needs to find a wife and a woman needs to find a husband. Paul says that if an unmarried person cannot exercise self-control 1 they should marry. (1Co 7:8-9 ESV) To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. (9) But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion.  Paul says something along similar lines later in Ch 7. (1Co 7:36-37 ESV) If anyone thinks that he is not behaving properly toward his betrothed, if his passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes: let them marry–it is no sin. (37) But whoever is firmly established in his heart, being under no necessity but having his desire under control, and has determined this in his heart, to keep her as his betrothed, he will do well.

(1 Th 4:3-7 NIV) It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; {4} that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, {5} not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; {6} and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. {7} For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.

(Titus 2:6 NIV) Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled.

(1 Cor 7:2 NIV) But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. \

(Prov 18:22 NIV) He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.

 In 1 Cor 6:12, Paul says ‘”Everything is permissible for me”–but I will not be mastered by anything’. If we become slaves to a bad habit, then we are not in control of our body.

(1 Cor 6:12-13 NIV) “Everything is permissible for me”–but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible for me”–but I will not be mastered by anything. {13} “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food”–but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.

(1 Cor 7:1-4 NIV) Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. {2} But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. {3} The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. {4} The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.

(Phil 4:7-8 NIV) And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. {8} Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.

In 1 Th 4:4-5 Paul tells us that “each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God”. Also in 2 Tim 2:22 Paul’s advice to Timothy, is to flee the evil desires of youth, and a positive command is introduced , which is to pursue righteousness, faith love and peace.

(Titus 2:6) Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled.

2 Tim 2:22 Flee the evil desires of youth, and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

(1 Cor 6:15-20 NIV) Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! {16} Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” {17} But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit. {18} Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. {19} Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; {20} you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
Again the problem here is that the Corinthians were going to a prostitute and becoming one body, or one flesh with the prostitute. Paul argues that our bodies are a member of Christ himself, and that we should not unite them with a prostitute. He is sinning against his body by uniting it with a prostitute. This is certainly not the case with masturbation. However perhaps 1 Cor 6:19-20 are more relevant to masturbation, we are not our own, we were bought at a price, therefore we should honour God with our body. It is hard to see that masturbation is honoring to God, while sex within marriage is.

(Mat 5:28 NIV) But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

(Job 31:1 NIV) “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl.

(Mat 5:29 NIV) If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.

(Phil 4:8 NIV) Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.

(Prov 24:16 NIV) for though a righteous man falls seven times, he rises again, but the wicked are brought down by calamity.

James 4:8 Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.

(Mat 18:21-22 NIV) Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” {22} Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.

(Heb 2:17-18 NIV) For this reason he had to be made like his brothers in every way, in order that he might become a merciful and faithful high priest in service to God, and that he might make atonement for the sins of the people. {18} Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted. (Heb 3:1 NIV) Therefore, holy brothers, who share in the heavenly calling, fix your thoughts on Jesus, the apostle and high priest whom we confess.

(Heb 12:4 NIV) In your struggle against sin, you have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your blood.

(1 Cor 10:13 NIV) No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

(Prov 5:18-20 NIV) May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. {19} A loving doe, a graceful deer– may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love. {20} Why be captivated, my son, by an adulteress? Why embrace the bosom of another man’s wife?

(1 Tim 4:1-5 NIV) The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons. {2} Such teachings come through hypocritical liars, whose consciences have been seared as with a hot iron. {3} They forbid people to marry and order them to abstain from certain foods, which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and who know the truth. {4} For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, {5} because it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer.

1Co 7:33-34 ESV But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, (34) and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband.

1Co 7:12-16 ESV To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. (13) If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. (14) For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. (15) But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. (16) Wife, how do you know whether you will save your husband? Husband, how do you know whether you will save your wife?

(1 Cor 6:13 NIV) “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food”–but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 

 see also https://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/the-false-divorce-incentives/

http://postedat.wordpress.com/2008/08/21/todd-bentley-someone-has-to-say-it-to-you/