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FIRSTLY DID YOU MAKE A MISTAKE, A SERIOUS ONE AND PUT YOUR FAMILY BEFORE GOD, FOR GOD NEXT WILL SHOW YOU YOUR ERROR, HE WILL SHOW YOU WHAT YOUR FAMILY IS REALLY LIKE NOW TOO..

Mat 10:34 Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. Mat 10:35 For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. Mat 10:36 And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. Mat 10:37 He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Mat 10:38 And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.

These days it is very likley that you get divorced as likley as you will get cancer or a heart disease.. many divorces are ALSO caused even by outside influences.. such by the input of bad persons too… demons such as lawyers, bad judges, relatives and the  bad pastors too.. http://thenonconformer.wordpress.com/2014/01/04/the-problem-of-doing-your-own-thing/

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John 4:16    Jesus saith unto her, Go, call thy husband, and come hither. 17    The woman answered and said, I have no husband. Jesus said unto her, Thou hast well said, I have no husband: 18    For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly.

I draw your attention to this women that Jesus himself had  encountered whose numerous husbands did not meet her needs.

John 4: 10    Jesus answered and said unto her, If thou knewest the gift of God, and who it is that saith to thee, Give me to drink; thou wouldest have asked of him, and he would have given thee living water. 13    Jesus answered and said unto her, Whosoever drinketh of this water shall thirst again: 14    But whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life. 15    The woman saith unto him, Sir, give me this water, that I thirst not, neither come hither to draw.

God alone has the sole final thirst quencher too..

 All these clearly fools, perverse judges, lawyers, and spouses show us all openly again and again what they are realy like by their own bad acts HERE TOO. http://thenonconformer.wordpress.com/2009/01/02/divorce-and-remarriage-in-the-christian-church/
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Sad but true also that  most liars falsely do not admit lying is a bad sin..Sad that most people do lie..cause they falsely still do beleive that it can produce good for them and others.. but that is not so.. and. continual liars do now even become mentally sick persons.. http://canada.today.tripod.com/d/lying.htm
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LET’S ALSO  NOT PRETEND TO BE DUMB AND DENY THAT MANY OF THE SPOUSES AND THEIR LAWYERS, SUPPORTERS OFTEN WASTE THE COURT’S TIME AND TAX PAYER’S MONEY FOR  THEY DO LIE IN DIVORCE DISPUTE TO THE COURTS TOO.. DO COMMIT PERJURY TO TH COURTS  AND RARELY FACE ANY NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES FOR IT.
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One cause of many of the marriage problem is a false pride, family pride, the lying wife even bragging how good her family, parents are or how good her husband is.. for pride is a very deadly sin, and also the problem of gifts.. There is no one who is Just, Good according to the Bible too. 

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(Deu 16:19 KJV)  Thou shalt not wrest judgment; thou shalt not respect persons, neither take a gift: for a gift doth blind the eyes of the wise, and pervert the words of the righteous.
(Prov 17:8 KJV)  A gift is as a precious stone in the eyes of him that hath it: whithersoever it turneth, it prospereth.
(Prov 17:23 KJV)  A wicked man taketh a gift out of the bosom to pervert the ways of judgment.
(Eccl 7:7 KJV)  Surely oppression maketh a wise man mad; and a gift destroyeth the heart.
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Perverted by gifts.  I have seen it happen, Husbands have complained about it to me as well, one  of many serious reasons a marriage can break down is the meddling in laws, where the mother and father in law, brother or sister give a gift to the wife, and she next indecently, independently  refuses to share this gift with her husband, but on top of that she loses respect for her husband, cause he did not give this money to her, this same gift is actually a bribe that destroys the marriage. The gift should have been given to the husband and not the wife.
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(1 Cor 11:3 KJV)  But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
(Eph 5:23 KJV)  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
(1 Pet 2:7 KJV)  Unto you therefore which believe he is precious: but unto them which be disobedient, the stone which the builders disallowed, the same is made the head of the corner,
(Psa 5:5 KJV)  The foolish shall not stand in thy sight: thou hatest all workers of iniquity.
(Prov 9:6 KJV)  Forsake the foolish, and live; and go in the way of understanding.
(Prov 9:13 KJV)  A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing.
(Prov 14:1 KJV)  Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
(Prov 15:7 KJV)  The lips of the wise disperse knowledge: but the heart of the foolish doeth not so.
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Many people falsely believe that because they are married  professing Christians they are spared, immune from all marriage problems and divorce. The high rate of divorce amongst even evangelical Christians is also now due to the fact they are merely Playing religion and merely going to church for show which is totally inadequate as well. No matter what the false excuse, false justification one now offers, when one is often busy doing their own will, their own thing  and following after mere men instead of God directly, and with continual ungodliness and continuing in sin without continual repentance, it is not at all now possible even by grace to even stay as  a genuine believer! Next that is why as I have  have witnessed directly the last 5 decades too that at least 50 percent of once loudly professing Christians now they are no longer by their own personal choice too walking with God. A recent survey shows that 70 percent of evangelical pastors have admitted to adultery, and about 30 percent of evangelicals practice martial divorce that God hates as a direct result too. Their spiritual downfall is related that almost all of these people really do not know God, they have heard of him, but they are drastically failing to personally know him more everyday, especially  when 85 percent of professing Christians are playing religion only, for they do spend less than 5 minutes a day in God’s word, thus with God. When they all, even the pastors now should be with God in prayer  and in his word at least one hour a day.. yet these same people can find time for other bad things though. So God is not mocked what they sow they reap, and where they the sow nothing, they reap nothing.. For faith comes by hearing and hearing comes from abiding in God Word, the same Bible, word that will keep a believer in God’s will and will keep them next from sin. The unrepentant sins will keep a person next away from prayer, God and the Bible.. many professing Christians have clearly built their house on sinking sand instead of the solid rock Jesus thus. Be ye also doers of God’s words and not mere hearers.
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If you still do have a God shaped vacuum that is unfilled, then no other things, no relationships or careers, goals, next will satisfy you, not any personal, social, community relationships..
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Note this reality.. like it or not.. believe it or not..
Both fornicators and adulterers are excluded from Heaven. They are pursuing vanities as far as God is concerned..
 
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“Have you not known that the unrighteous the reign of God shall not inherit? Be not led astray; neither whoremongers, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, the reign of God shall inherit. And certain of you were these! But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were declared righteous, in the name of the Lord Jesus, and in the Spirit of our God” (1 Cor 6:9).
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(James 4:5 KJV)  Do ye think that the scripture saith in vain, The spirit that dwelleth in us lusteth to envy?
  
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(Eccl 7:17 KJV)  Be not over much wicked, neither be thou foolish: why shouldest thou die before thy time?
(Jer 5:4 KJV)  Therefore I said, Surely these are poor; they are foolish: for they know not the way of the LORD, nor the judgment of their God.
(Ezek 13:3 KJV)  Thus saith the Lord GOD; Woe unto the foolish prophets, that follow their own spirit, and have seen nothing!
(Gal 3:3 KJV)  Are ye so foolish? having begun in the Spirit, are ye now made perfect by the flesh?
(1 Tim 6:9 KJV)  But they that will be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into many foolish and hurtful lusts, which drown men in destruction and perdition.
(Titus 3:3 KJV)  For we ourselves also were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving divers lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another.
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We all do even  need to seriously know, differentiate between how God now deals with the wicked, those persons deliberately disobedient to him, he God does not go along with them for sure .. God’s grace of forgiveness even does not extend to everyone..
and next the righteous those people who put their trust in him.. God is merciful, kind to them, but not all professing Christians now are righteous for sure as well.
 
Every time you do openly speak or write a great truth, a valid complaint now too,  the devil next will try to use someone to try to discredit it and you and I do not have to accept it too. Verbal, emotional, physical, legal, Human rights  abuses are unacceptable for all.. Ironically some  of the biggest bullies I have encountered in Canada themselves had claimed to be good persons and that they themselves supposedly  were being bullied, abused by others .The issue of dealing effectively with the too many  false bullies on the web also now needs to be addressed..  I too do believe that we all have the right , in turns, to speak , to be heard as well, still when I see any person next resorting to merely personal attacks, name calling of others, such as  calling them ” Vile, Low Life, Criminal, Hoodlum,  Scum Bag , Crass Miscreant, Serial Online criminal, and disgusting Sociopath  ”  they should note that firstly themselves have lost it all already.. have lost both support and credibility now as well, for in fact they now are no better than the person they are supposedly complaining about. Even if they call themselves now professing Christians for Satan and his fallen angels also like to masquerade themselves as Angels of light. Messengers of the truth.. for  I do next also expose what they are like, really bad persons, to all..  I did not hesitate to expose now rightfully such person myself.. even if they were relatives of mine.. or fellow citizens.   By their own doings, fruit you still tell what a person now is like.. (Mat 7:2 KJV)  For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. 3  And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? 4  Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? 5  Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye. .
Verbal abuse is always unacceptable too. So are the Bullies now too
Many People usually accuse others of what they are guilty themselves, that is why they are so concious of it often..
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Desperate people try also to get personal about others when they cannot disprove the facts.. But still how ironic they are now even next condemned  by their own words, the beam in their  own eyes, and the distorted  accusations of others thus! People who ask others not to judge them ironically are often  judging the others  for supposedly judging the others.

God still does not overlook unrepentant sins.. so wake up.. especially the sins involving the abuse of others. The abusers now matter who they are seem to like to  give it to others but can’t take a rebuke themslves  ehh..  they need to Stop telling the  others what to do .. to live it themsrlves first .. for what you are speak louder than any of your words

when the Holy Spirit comes he will also reprove the world of sin, judgment, righteousness.. and not be an Ostrich to their  own sins, wrong doings

I do not think much of control freaks, bullies too and do   see also my many posts on how to deal with control freaks.. abusers..
  
for example

http://postedat.wordpress.com/2009/07/16/abused/

Why the high divorce rates?

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In some parts of the country, cities the divorce rate is as high as 70 percent, and for those of you who wrongfully think it does not cause suffering, a lowering of one standard of living, serious health problems then do naively dream on.. take an ostrich approach.. but the alarm bells will keep you awake, sleepless at night too.. this now all sound extremist? but that is the reality.. People continue to do their own thing.. and I next still wonder why one of the most searched topic on my family site is how to deal with an abusive, or an alcoholic, or a control freak spouse.. an ounce of prevention is worth a ton of cure here too..  And why is there so many difficult maritial partners? http://postedat.wordpress.com/2010/09/26/marriage-problems-or-a-realtionship-problem/
 
Now I have been pastoring, even blogging on the net  since the advent of computers and I have written thousands of posts now too.. but what amazes me always still is that the most common  personal prayer requests is still firstly for a good soul mate – a great spouse, and next to get a good paying job followed by a prayer for healing from sickness.. and few people ask, pray what can I do for you Lord Jesus today? Why is that?  http://postedat.wordpress.com/2010/11/09/what-should-be-the-key-goal-in-ones-life-be/
 
Face it the single biggest cause of depression basically is your own doings and not just a bad marriage.. But don’t expect any marriage to make you happier over having a personal relationship with God still or the new or old marriage to be a false substitute for having a personal relationship with God. I have been recently counseling a person who desperately wants to be remarried, she has been twice married, but she is not interesting in following after God only after her own desires, lusts.. so no marriage for her will make her happy or replace God’s vacuum in her life still too. God has not promised you now even a right of remarriage.. but he promised you peace, joy and happiness and yes you can have that outside of marriage with Jesus..
Yes  the most common religious search question on the net on my site is not how can I serve now God better but rather can I marry a non Christian?  and people who are asking the question clearly do not read, they do not know their  Bible for the answer is always no! No you cannot marry a non Christian , nor can you have sex outside of valid marriage now as well, nor can Christians get divorced according to the Bible now too.. Like it or not that is still what God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit, the Bible say.
               
 spousal relationships is the most important aspect?
The supposedly Important MARRIAGE  Intimacies? SELF CENTERED GOALS?
–  a bond of Spiritual Intimacy… but the FIRST all important relationship is not that  between a husband and wife but that one with  God!  Too often God is neglected and why is that? No excuses here are acceptable.
– Emotional Intimacy… the “heart to heart” connection the intimate couple CRAVED BY EMOTIONAL WOMEN?  and certainly not by men, many men tend to lie to women to make them feel good here..
– Intellectual Intimacy… SEEMS TO BY PASS ANY NEED FOR  LOVE.. Though we allow one another to be unique,  is it important that we share common core values? A truly intimate couple will often even think the same thing? or be led by the same evil spirit? REAL LOVE ACCEPTS A PERSON THE WAY THEY ARE EVEN WITH THE DIFFERENCES.
– Sexual Intimacy or Sexual compatibilty  IS VERY IMPORTANT  too? God has designed a very special physical relationship that draws a husband and wife closer than ever? or a lust that causes them to be tempted by others?  Sexual! This seems to be the biggest goal of may persons sadly. Sex still does not make you happy like Jesus does. Many people who have sex are still unhapy with each other, life too.
 
Most marriages that fail still do fail not due to marital intimacy failures but firstly fail  due to laziness, unrealistic expectations, pursuing bad or false values, extreme goals, self centeredness and ADULTERY..
   
Personal relationship with others should be the key goal in one’s life   or is there other more important priorities, goals in life that should be personally  followed? 
 
Adultery is a sin God punishes..
  
(Psa 50:18 KJV)  When thou sawest a thief, then thou consentedst with him, and hast been partaker with adulterers.
 
(Jer 9:2 KJV)  Oh that I had in the wilderness a lodging place of wayfaring men; that I might leave my people, and go from them! for they be all adulterers, an assembly of treacherous men.
 
(Jer 23:10 KJV)  For the land is full of adulterers; for because of swearing the land mourneth; the pleasant places of the wilderness are dried up, and their course is evil, and their force is not right.
 
(Hosea 7:4 KJV)  They are all adulterers, as an oven heated by the baker, who ceaseth from raising after he hath kneaded the dough, until it be leavened.
 
(Mal 3:5 KJV)  And I will come near to you to judgment; and I will be a swift witness against the sorcerers, and against the adulterers, and against false swearers, and against those that oppress the hireling in his wages, the widow, and the fatherless, and that turn aside the stranger from his right, and fear not me, saith the LORD of hosts.
 
(1 Cor 6:9 KJV)  Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
 
(Heb 13:4 KJV)  Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
 
(James 4:4 KJV)  Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.
 
(Rev 3:12 KJV)  Him that overcometh will I make a pillar in the temple of my God, and he shall go no more out: and I will write upon him the name of my God, and the name of the city of my God, which is new Jerusalem, which cometh down out of heaven from my God: and I will write upon him my new name.
 
(Rev 14:7 KJV)  Saying with a loud voice, Fear God, and give glory to him; for the hour of his judgment is come: and worship him that made heaven, and earth, and the sea, and the fountains of waters.
 
(Rev 14:13 KJV)  And I heard a voice from heaven saying unto me, Write, Blessed are the dead which die in the Lord from henceforth: Yea, saith the Spirit, that they may rest from their labours; and their works do follow them.
 
(Rev 18:4 KJV)  And I heard another voice from heaven, saying, Come out of her, my people, that ye be not partakers of her sins, and that ye receive not of her plagues.
 
(Rev 18:5 KJV)  For her sins have reached unto heaven, and God hath remembered her iniquities.
 
(Rev 21:2 KJV)  And I John saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down from God out of heaven, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband.
 
(Rev 1:7 KJV)  Behold, he cometh with clouds; and every eye shall see him, and they also which pierced him: and all kindreds of the earth shall wail because of him. Even so, Amen.
 
(Rev 2:23 KJV)  And I will kill her children with death; and all the churches shall know that I am he which searcheth the reins and hearts: and I will give unto every one of you according to your works.
 
(Rev 3:5 KJV)  He that overcometh, the same shall be clothed in white raiment; and I will not blot out his name out of the book of life, but I will confess his name before my Father, and before his angels.
 
(Rev 3:10 KJV)  Because thou hast kept the word of my patience, I also will keep thee from the hour of temptation, which shall come upon all the world, to try them that dwell upon the earth.
 
(Rev 6:17 KJV)  For the great day of his wrath is come; and who shall be able to stand?
 
(Rev 14:10 KJV)  The same shall drink of the wine of the wrath of God, which is poured out without mixture into the cup of his indignation; and he shall be tormented with fire and brimstone in the presence of the holy angels, and in the presence of the Lamb:
 
(Rev 15:4 KJV)  Who shall not fear thee, O Lord, and glorify thy name? for thou only art holy: for all nations shall come and worship before thee; for thy judgments are made manifest.
 
(Rev 18:7 KJV)  How much she hath glorified herself, and lived deliciously, so much torment and sorrow give her: for she saith in her heart, I sit a queen, and am no widow, and shall see no sorrow.
 
(Rev 18:8 KJV)  Therefore shall her plagues come in one day, death, and mourning, and famine; and she shall be utterly burned with fire: for strong is the Lord God who judgeth her.
 
(Rev 18:9 KJV)  And the kings of the earth, who have committed fornication and lived deliciously with her, shall bewail her, and lament for her, when they shall see the smoke of her burning,
 
(Rev 18:11 KJV)  And the merchants of the earth shall weep and mourn over her; for no man buyeth their merchandise any more:
 
(Rev 18:15 KJV)  The merchants of these things, which were made rich by her, shall stand afar off for the fear of her torment, weeping and wailing,
 
(Rev 18:23 KJV)  And the light of a candle shall shine no more at all in thee; and the voice of the bridegroom and of the bride shall be heard no more at all in thee: for thy merchants were the great men of the earth; for by thy sorceries were all nations deceived.
 
(Rev 20:10 KJV)  And the devil that deceived them was cast into the lake of fire and brimstone, where the beast and the false prophet are, and shall be tormented day and night for ever and ever.
 
(Rev 21:3 KJV)  And I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God.
 
(Rev 21:4 KJV)  And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.
 
(Rev 21:7 KJV)  He that overcometh shall inherit all things; and I will be his God, and he shall be my son.
 
(Rev 21:8 KJV)  But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
 
(Rev 21:27 KJV)  And there shall in no wise enter into it any thing that defileth, neither whatsoever worketh abomination, or maketh a lie: but they which are written in the Lamb’s book of life.
 
(Rev 22:3 KJV)  And there shall be no more curse: but the throne of God and of the Lamb shall be in it; and his servants shall serve him:
 
(Rev 22:4 KJV)  And they shall see his face; and his name shall be in their foreheads.
 
(Rev 22:5 KJV)  And there shall be no night there; and they need no candle, neither light of the sun; for the Lord God giveth them light: and they shall reign for ever and ever.
 
(Rev 22:12 KJV)  And, behold, I come quickly; and my reward is with me, to give every man according as his work shall be.
 
(Rev 22:18 KJV)  For I testify unto every man that heareth the words of the prophecy of this book, If any man shall add unto these things, God shall add unto him the plagues that are written in this book:
 
(Rev 22:19 KJV)  And if any man shall take away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God shall take away his part out of the book of life, and out of the holy city, and from the things which are written in this book.
 
                  
(2 Cor 6:14 KJV)  Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
 
(2 Cor 6:15 KJV)  And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
 
(2 Cor 6:16 KJV)  And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
 
(2 Cor 6:17 KJV)  Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,
 
(2 Cor 6:18 KJV)  And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.
 
(2 Cor 7:1 KJV)  Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.
 
 
 
Generally these days it is the wife who wrongfully files for divorce,and  before that it used to be the men.  These days the too often dirty lawyers who make blood money from divorce, are wolves in sheep clothing now picturing them slves and  the spouse to the courts, as good persons, decent, honest, relaible, falsely claiming her now to be a totally good , honest person, and not another typical  liar too.
 
The lawyers who tend to be too often liars themselves they like to present the female spouse before the Queen’s courts, before the supposedly reputable judge, who in my witness, experiences actual too often is also now a liar, pretender himself, a person  who does not get off the bench cause he is too lazy to ascertain the truth of the facts being presented to him or her.
 
The lawyers like to present the wife as a decent, respected, good, moral person who now has provided faithfully  for her husband, she did not, does not abuse any them not even her bad  husband, she does not cheat, lie or steal now as well.
 
The still mostly  liars like to present her as an a good person, whereas more likely in reality  she also is another demon. In fact men and women tend to be equal sinners, before God and man. In fact the same spouse she likely has slandered, lied, committed adultery, even stole from her spouse and now she will keep on lying, perjuring herself hoping next to get a good alimony support from her spouse.
 
Many a person  when they see these people divorcing they really tend next not to recognize them and their behavior, for it clearly is different from what they had known before, were used too in fact.  
 
All of a sudden clearly new now  openly monsters here have arisen.  In reality  the wife is not the mostly   innocent, the sole injured party and the husband is not the sole bad guy, villain too.
 
All of these mostly immoral,  lying now people, pastors too often too, spouses, laywers, judges tend to first need decent, real, pastoral counseling themselves. http://thenonconformer.wordpress.com/2009/01/02/divorce-and-remarriage-in-the-christian-church/
 
  Christian Lies, Divorce And/or  Christian Divorce  Remarriage, (as well as adultery, fornication , Alcoholism, drugs, smoking, gays)  In the Christian Church are ALL still unacceptable.