The Marriages that slide downward go through these stages: romance, reality, resentment, unforgiveness – bitterness and rebellion – divorce.
still excludes the common realty also that bad friends, bad relatives, others do work hard to break up the marriages too….
Key steps that help to break this cycle and to change marriages are for a start…
–First, open your life fully to God. (Luke 6:27). Without God in control of your life these days it is likely your marriage ALSO next will fail
-Second, follow God’s ways continually. (Ephesians 5:1)
– Honor each other: be faithful and committed, recognize the dignity and special worth of all others, admire, affirm and celebrate each other, and avoid continual fault-finding.
Our personal beliefs and feelings toward people tend to follow what we believe about them. A judgment is MY interpretation of someone’s life at a point in time, it still doesn’t give the whole picture and becomes a label by which I narrowly view and interpret that person. What are some reasons some people too often “put-down” or judge others rather than affirm, accept them with Christ’s unconditional love? They firstly do not have the real love themselves. They likely come from troubled, divorced homes or are in a troubled marriage, home.
“A love that cherishes is patient and kind (1 Cor. 13:4). To be patient means “to take a long time to boil” and is the opposite of rudeness and irritability. Patience celebrates our strengths and validates our uniqueness. Kindness involves being gentle, sensitive, considerate, thoughtful and helpful to make life easier for the other person.
Love delights…
Such love enjoys giving attention to the other, spending time together. (Eccl. 9:9) Such love enjoys expressing affection to the other, including sexual intimacy for those who are married.(1 Corinthians 7:2-5). Such love enjoys growing spiritually with the other, together opening our lives to God and praying, together getting to know Him better and together following His ways.
(2 Peter 3:18).
“How incredible it would be if in all of our relationships–with God, with our husbands and wives, with our families and with our friends–we could experience great delight!” (Schorr Line, May 29, 2009) Centre Street Church is affiliated with the Evangelical Missionary Church of Canada http://www.cschurch.ca/
Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another. (1 Cor 13:4 KJV) Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
(1 Cor 13:2 KJV) And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
Contrary to the devil’s and lawyers lies, only the lawyer’s and the courts are those persons who tend to get richer, profit generally from a divorce. On top of that Divorce persons tend to have a shorter life span, and more health problems as well compared to the others.
Do see also
http://postedat.wordpress.com/2008/10/02/how-to-keep-oneself-away-from-sexual-transgressions/
https://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/12/24/why-the-high-divorce-rates/
http://thenonconformer.wordpress.com/2009/01/02/divorce-and-remarriage-in-the-christian-church/
http://postedat.wordpress.com/2008/12/25/christian-missionary-alliance/
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I could not help to notice that lawyers , the mostly bad leeaches, seem to like to use distorted portions of my posts to justify divorce to their potentiual customers.
I cannot recall a single time that Jesus who likes to heal the broken hearted too or any of the Apostles had ever recommended divorce.
Ontario won’t fund proposed law schools http://www.theglobeandmail.com/servlet/story/LAC.20080730.NATS30-1/TPStory/TPNational/Ontario/
Globe and Mail – The Ontario government says it has no money to train new lawyers, dashing the hopes of three universities in the province competing to open the first new law school in Canada in nearly 30 years.
Province lays down the law Sudbury Star
Province won’t fund new law schools Waterloo Record
Sarnia Observer – Thunder Bay’s Source – Macleans.ca – CKCO
all 15 news articles » http://news.google.ca/?ncl=1231287511&hl=en&topic=n
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and who can blame them they need rather to open more jails for the too often lying, perjruriouis, no good lawyers, and bad pastors, bad cops, bad politicians too..
Bad Lawyers often quote my writing on the net https://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/ to try to encourage any potential clients to divorce.. what leaches they are too. Beware of them too, not just crooked cops, crooked pastors, crooked politicians now too..
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(Luke 12:57 KJV) Yea, and why even of yourselves judge ye not what is right?
Mark 14:21 For the Son of Man is going as it stands written concerning Him; but woe to that man by whom the Son of Man is betrayed! It would have been good (profitable and wholesome) for that man if he had never been born.
Sadly too many martial relationships today follow a very predictable pattern:
-The marriage partners push their spouse for total commitment
-They try hard get mostly what they want
-They next too often even lose interest in the sex
-They next become attracted to someone else
-They start cheating with the someone else
-They become angry and resentful for the guilt they feel
-They begin telling their original partner, spouse that they need time apart
-They mostly blame their old partner, spouse for their behavior…and eventually, after making themselves and everyone around them miserable for an indefinite, but usually, a long period of time, they do end their relationships, marriages.
Next even the new relationships and marriages will likely continue to follow this same pattern.
Evangelist Todd Bentley, who led a Pentecostal revival in Lakeland from a modest beginning to near-historic proportions, has filed for separation from his wife, Bentley and his wife had been undergoing marriage counseling for a few years.
Todd Bentley, the evangelist who has led the Florida Outpouring revival here in Lakeland since April 2, has filed for separation from his wife and might not return to the revival, according to his former local spokesperson, Lynne Breidenbach. She said Bentley made the announcement to his staff this afternoon. Bentley and his wife, Shonnah, have two daughters and a son and are Canadian citizens. Under Canadian law, separation is a first step in divorce proceedings and takes nine months. http://religion.theledger.com/default.asp?item=2248784
“Undoubtedly the pressures and the burden of the Outpouring, which approaches 144 days on August 23rd, have helped to create an atmosphere of fatigue and stress that has exacerbated existing issues in their relationship,”
THIS situation IS all “very sad” but insisted it “doesn’t invalidate what GOD HAD DONE, NOT WHAT Todd did” at the revival.God uses fallen, flawed people.
(Psa 119:11 KJV) Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee.
(1 Ki 8:46 KJV) If they sin against thee, (for there is no man that sinneth not,)
(Eccl 7:20 KJV) For there is not a just man upon earth, that doeth good, and sinneth not.
(Ezek 3:21 KJV) Nevertheless if thou warn the righteous man, that the righteous sin not, and he doth not sin, he shall surely live, because he is warned; also thou hast delivered thy soul.
(Rom 6:12 KJV) Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof.
(1 John 1:9 KJV) If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
(1 John 1:10 KJV) If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.
Now Are we ALL to judge any of this ?
Apostle Paul clearly had confirmed that we are to judge anyone within the Church, the body of Jesus Christ, only..
(Luke 17:3 KJV) Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.
(Phil 2:15 KJV) That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world;
(1 Tim 5:20 KJV) Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.
(2 Tim 4:2 KJV) Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine.
(Titus 1:13 KJV) This witness is true. Wherefore rebuke them sharply, that they may be sound in the faith;
(Titus 2:15 KJV) These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.
(Rev 3:19 KJV) As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.
(Luke 12:58 KJV) When thou goest with thine adversary to the magistrate, as thou art in the way, give diligence that thou mayest be delivered from him; lest he hale thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and the officer cast thee into prison.
(1 Cor 5:12 KJV) For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within?
(1 Cor 6:2 KJV) Do ye not know that the saints shall judge the world? and if the world shall be judged by you, are ye unworthy to judge the smallest matters?
(1 Cor 6:3 KJV) Know ye not that we shall judge angels? how much more things that pertain to this life?
(1 Cor 6:4 KJV) If then ye have judgments of things pertaining to this life, set them to judge who are least esteemed in the church.
(1 Cor 6:5 KJV) I speak to your shame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man among you? no, not one that shall be able to judge between his brethren?
(1 Cor 11:31 KJV) For if we would judge ourselves, we should not be judged.
(Heb 10:30 KJV) For we know him that hath said, Vengeance belongeth unto me, I will recompense, saith the Lord. And again, The Lord shall judge his people.
(Rom 7:1 KJV) Know ye not, brethren how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth?
(Rom 7:2 KJV) For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
(Heb 13:4 KJV) Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
“The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to the husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body; but the husband does. Likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body; but the wife does” (Corinthians 7:3-5).
“Do not deprive one another except perhaps by agreement for a set time” (1 Cor 7:5).
(Mal 2:14 KJV) Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. 15 And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. 16 For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.
TODD BENTLEY BE OBEDIENT TO GOD AND DO WHATEVER IT TAKES. GOD HATES DIVORCE , ADULTERY AND EVEN HYPOCRITES TOO. AND DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE IS NOT PERMISSIBLE FOR TWO PROFESSING CHRISTIANS WHILE BOTH OF THEM ARE ALIVE. SO “Todd Bentley” swallow your pride, your own lusts, goals, false desires but now also still be an EXAMPLE TO THE BODY OF JESUS CHRIST, love His church, his work, but now also still love your own wife. AND WORK NOT ONLY TO BE A GOOD PREACHER BUT ALSO TO BE A GOOD HUSBAND, AND GOOD FATHER TO YOUR CHILDREN TOO .
see also
http://postedat.wordpress.com/2008/08/16/healing-todd-bentley-florda-lakeland-revival/
https://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/08/20/the-problemed-family/
https://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/08/19/adultery/
https://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/08/15/deliberate-unforgiveness/
https://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/the-false-divorce-incentives/
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here is a great song to follow rather..
Make me a channel of your peace.
Where there is hatred let me bring your love;
Where there is injury your pardon, Lord;
And where there’s doubt true faith in you.
Refrain:
Oh, Master grant that I may never seek
So much to be consoled as to console;
To be understood as to understand;
To be loved as to love with all my soul.
Make me a channel of your peace.
Where there’s despair in life let me bring hope;
Where there is darkness, only light;
And where there’s sadness, ever joy.
Refrain
Make me a channel of your peace.
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
In giving to all men that we receive;
And in dying that we’re born to eternal life.
Refrain
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1TM 6:10 For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil, for which some have strayed from the faith in their greediness, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.
Here are the latest facts on Todd Bentley and not so Fresh Fire ministries:
• The IRS and Revenue Canada are investigating. The Authorities are investigating.
• Verified sources closest to Todd Bentley reveal that Todd has been a drunk for years.
• Verified sources closest to Todd Bentley reveal that Todd has been having multiple physical affairs, cheating on his wife and children, for years. All this while lying to all Christians and preaching his Todd gospel
Todd Bentley is the tattooed former criminal who in July 2008 stepped down from his controversial revival in Florida over an affair with a woman. Bentley, raised in Gibsons, B.C., was known to be a heavy drinker. During his ecstatic services he would often punch or kick sick people in the name of healing them. It wasn’t his outrageous claims of raising the dead that finally landed Todd Bentley in trouble. Not the contradictory sermons, or even his criminal past. Not the face piercings, the neck-to-knee tattoos, the biker-dude lifestyle. His followers could live with all that; it was part of the act.
Bentley, a 32-year-old former drug addict from the west coast, was the hottest thing going on the global televangelist circuit. A hog-riding faith healer with a devil-may-care attitude. Then he failed his flock, the old fashioned way: cheating on his wife. Todd Bentley, disgraced, is now in hiding.
Todd Bentley was EXPOSED as a LIAR and a THIEF!!! During the Lakeland revival Todd also said that God told him to get 1,000 people to give $1,000 dollars. When people confronted Todd, Todd admitted that God did not say that. We had positive prove that Todd Bentley along with the leaders of the Revival Alliance was spiritually abusing everyone.
I have often said, asked that they should in fairness not discriminate and investigate all the pastors, evangelists, preachers and ANNUALLY now fairly in all of the denominations NOT JUST A FEW Pentecostal ones even for possible tax evasions, abuse of donated funds, lies, slander.. but it never will happen sadly.. too many politicians who are likely just as bad will likely suppress it too.
up to 70 percent of pastors are immoral to start of with.. and 55 percent admited to adultery now too.. and what else.
so why pick on Todd Bentley now only? God does not discriminate..
http://postedat.wordpress.com/2008/09/19/dispensationalists-it-seems-to-compensate-for-their-often-rejections/
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